(Closed) Question about Bachelorette Party Invitations?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have attended several bachelorette parties and the guests didn’t generally contribute anything towards the bride. The wedding party covered themselves and the bride for any activities, drinks, food, etc. The guests were only responsible for their own expenses.

Post # 5
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’ve received invitations like the example you posted.  The invitation listed the date and time and the activities and then there was an insert with the different “options”.  Like the “all-inclusive” option for $45 included dinner, bus and covers into all the bars.  The “party-only” option for $15 included the bus and covers into the bars.  And finally, the “a la cart” option meant you met them at the first bar (providing your own transportation) and then took care of your own expenses.

I just threw a bachelorete party for my best friend recently and we decided to ask the guests for $10 to cover the cost of the bus and the bride.  The guests only paid the 10 bucks if they were gonna take the bus and stay with us all night.  Many were happy to have that option and some were fine with driving themselves, especially if they knew they would be heading home early.  A lot of the people who did not take the bus ended up giving us money for the bride anyway.

My personal opinion is that it is fine to request money from the guests as long as they have full disclosure ahead of time of the costs and what’s included and that it’s optional.  I would hate for someone that is close to the bride to not be able to make it just because she couldn’t afford the “price of admission”.  I know plenty of people who have low funds but can scrape together when needed to cover themselves, but would not be able to if expected to split the costs with others.

Post # 6
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My MOHs both had to have small local bachelorette parties when they got hitched so when it came time for them to host mine, they went all out with a trip to Vegas.  My Maid/Matron of Honor was incredibly clear from the beginning that people would be responsible for their share of the trip and if someone really wanted to go and had a financial hardship to give her a call and they would work it out. 

I guess it all depends on the kind of party you are throwing, but the best policy is to be upfornt with people going in what the expectations are so that 1) everyone can decide for themselves if they will attend and 2) one person isn’t left holding the bag and spending tons of money. 

 btw–the invitations she made were amazing, she made a mix CD of party songs and the insert for the CD was a booklet filled with embarrassing pictures and pages of all of the information everyone would need for our weekend away. 

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