(Closed) Question about bridal shower & husband-to-be

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would think it would be weird for the groom to be there if its not J&J. I think it would be totally boring for him! My husband wasnt there for any part of my shower and that was just fine with me. I think thats what is normal. Maybe ask him to drive you to the shower but tell him he doesnt have to come in.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I understand why he wouldn’t want to go hang out with a bunch of girls and do girly things. If it’s not coed, usually I only see the guys come at the end (to help carry the gifts) or not at all.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Yeah I do think it’s strange to have him there the whole time.  My husband showed up towards the end to say hi to everyone and thank them, and to load up the car.  But he would have been bored out of his mind if he was there the whole time.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

most of the bridal showers I’ve heard of have are usually just women

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve been to showerswhere the groom does drive the bride-to-be, but then drops her off, b/c let’s face it, they will get bored quickly! Some stick around with the dads if it’s in a restaurant and eat, and then come back near the end to help carry the gifts.

Sometimes a close friend brings the friend if it’s a surprise — so I’ve seen both ways.

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee

Ive been to two showers where the husband to be stayed and opened presents with the bride. But usually the husband just stops in to drop off the bride, says hi to everyone and then leaves again.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My Fiance was there the whole time – but his family threw the shower for me and they have weird traditions. He escorted me into the room and stayed while they did introductions. Then he went to another room to hang out with his Dad for the rest of the time. Oh – and they opened the presentation cards and counted the money while I was opening the gifts at the shower. At the end I was handed cash, a pile of opened cards and a list of how much everyone gave me. So bizarre. I guess it depends on what your family wants to do!

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Maybe everyone pitched in together and got you guys one large gift… like a patio set or a BBQ or something like that and they want to give it to you guys together?

If they specifically requested that he drive you, then there is probably a some kind of reason for it.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@yassim: you should get someone in your family/group of friends (or even his mother) to call him and make the request

He will probably have a harder time saying no to them.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

double post.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

IMO it’s pretty normal for the guy to escort you in and then show up at the end to help you bring home the girfts. I had my Fiance stay for the whole time when his family threw me a shower because I wasn’t comfortable not knowing everyone. He didn’t come at all to the one my family threw me though. I guess it depends on however you feel most comfortable. If he doesn’t want to go, and you don’t care either way, then don’t make him come, but if you want him there, he should suck it up and just do it. The gifts are for him as well.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiance just came by a bit early since it was mainly his family hosting it.   It worked out perfectly, most of the men showed up close to the end.

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