Post # 1
okay so i am still a waiting bee but i have been kinda wondering about this. is it out of the ordinary to pick like 5-6 style dresses and have the girls pick from those? i know a lot of the girls here have opted to allow their bridesmaids to go out and pick their own dresses in whatever shade color they want. the colors i’m after make that a little difficult, plus i’m just not that trusting :p the issue here is that i plan to do a SORTA miss-matched thing…but i want all the dresses to be different. i plan to do alternating colors of accessories to pull it all together. but, if i pick 5-6 styles, how do i make sure what they choose is different? i think it would be sorta bridezilla-ish to choose a certain dress for a certain girl, but maybe not?
the same goes for shoes. i was in a wedding where the bride just told us to go out and find silver shoes, but would it be okay for me to pick 5-6 styles for them to choose from? i wouldn’t care if those styles were all the same. i honestly think it beats “this is what you’re wearing, like it or not” but who knows. all my girls are really easy going, but i am sure many a bride to be has said that before she ran into drama! lol.
thoughts? thanks so much 🙂
Post # 3
I think it’s totally fine! My friend did something similar: she sent her BMs a list of approved dresses, and each girl picked her dress from that list. The bride offered quite a bit of variety, so I think everyone was happy. She wanted to be sure that no one wore the same dress, though, so she just asked that once a girl picked her dress, she let everyone else know. Everyone was really nice about it, and two BMs even ended up switching dresses when one just couldn’t be altered to fit her.
Post # 4
@T.R.Bride: That sounds like a good day to do it.
I don’t think I would tell them who’s wearing what, but give them a list and not allow duplicates :). If it were me and they’re mostly local, I would let them all try on the dresses and take pictures and then let them pick while you’re all together.
That way if someone absolutely can’t pull of a certain style, they won’t get stuck with it because they didn’t check their e-mail in time. It will also allow you to step in if you see someone picking a dress that doesn’t work as well on their shape.
Post # 5
double post, sorry! Chrome and I aren’t getting along very well.
Post # 6
okay, makes sense! haha i was just like, how would i handle that without being labeled as a bridezilla? i’m very particular, but i don’t want to come off as such.
Post # 7
I’m doing the same thing. I have 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man, and I’m picking about 5 styles for them to choose from. I was worried about one girl going all “boobyfied” on me. I really didn’t want her cleavage everywhere in the pictures, so I’ve picked dresses that I don’t have to worry about. 🙂
I don’t think you’re bridezilla at all. Maybe I am? lol!