Post # 1
I’m curious on what is standard as far as how much to spend on bridesmaid gifts, and do you get nicer gifts if they did a lot to help with the wedding.
I’m curious because my girls have been super helpful with things. We’re doing a lot ourselves to say money and they found a makeup artist and someone both to serve alcohol and food at really good rates. They also threw an awesome bridal shower for me and have gone to a lot of wedding stuff with me such as going to look at flowers.
Post # 3
I really wouldn’t say that there’s a standard, a gift is normally given within what you can afford.
If you feel that they went above and beyond the normal expectations of a bridesmaid [which is basically putting on the dress, looking pretty and showing up], then yes I would give them something extra special.
I don’t expect my girls to do much, nor have they done much on their own – one is busy with high school and the other is a full mom & employee. I totally understand that they just don’t have time to help! And that’s okay. I’m also paying for their dresses, hair, makeup, shoes, & jewelry so they don’t worry about a thing.
Because I’m taking care everything, I won’t be getting them an over-the-top gift, probably each a $50 gift card to one of their favorite stores, and some little odds and ends [necklace, bracelets, nail polish].
Post # 3
I agree with ^^ Do you want you can afford. Maybe try to make each to fit each personally. I am making baskets with home made beauty products and getting a caterer breakfast in the morning!
Post # 4
Haha, my bridesmaids’ gifts started out being small. I ordered them all personalized necklaces with their initials. Then I got the necklaces and thought they looked cheap so I got them personalized totes to put their things in that they would need the day of. Then I thought “well, I would really love to make them jewelry boxes to put the necklaces in”. I do wood staining when I’m stressed out so obviously planning the wedding…..I’ve stained a lot of wood LOL. THEN my Future Mother-In-Law showed me these really cute shawl/scarf things that she could knit (she knits like I wood stain) for the girls and me to wear over our dresses after pics when it gets cold (northern Michigan in late August/early Sept).
So, total? I’ve probably spent about $50 on each bridesmaid (I have 3 girls). I know my girls will really love the thought behind the homemade gifts 🙂
Post # 5
Well, it depends on what you count. I got them robes (really nice and relatively cheap off etsy-seller is RobesAndKaftans) but I’m not counting that as a gift since it’s more for my pics. I’m also getting them a necklace/earring set that I may or may not ask them to wear for the wedding ($34 each) and then I’m hand painting wine glasses for them (about $8 each due to cost of paint).
Post # 7
I have an idea of what I want to get my wedding party, but may end up getting each girl (I only have 2) one different thing, and then similar smaller things.
I did ask my sister (MOH), if she preferred getting a wristlet/make up bag, or these other bags that could be used for other stuff. She had no preference, but she’s one who already has a lot of wristlet/makeup bags and would probably like the latter better. My other Bridesmaid or Best Man (FSIL) doesn’t have a lot of wristlets/makeup bags so I think that would be fun. I just want them to like that, so I may poll my Future Sister-In-Law as well. It’ll be a surpsie no matter what. Either choice, I’d plan on buying some smaller trinkets to put in them.
My Fiance is planning on buying his brother (BM) and Brother-In-Law (GM) stuff related to hunting that they can use, but not the same thing.
I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man for one friend and she got us all a tote with our names on it, and then a necklace and earrings to wear during the wedding, and a Starbucks GC. It’s the thought that counts, and whatever you can spend – it’ll be fine!
Post # 8
I have 3 bridesmaids, a sister/cousin/childhood best friend, so I feel like I can spend a little more on them. They’ve paid for their dresses/shoes/jewelry, as their gift to us, but all are students and so I paid all their alterations. I found some fun fuzzy bath robes at Costco in a cute coral colour for 13$ each, so we’ll be running around having a little bathrobe toga party in those on the morning of, and I’m thinking of purchasing them Coach wristlets for around 70$ a piece. They’re all very particular girls, none are very glitzy/glam and each is incredibly unique. My hair dresser is also a family friend, who is doing my hair/the girls’ hair as a gift, and we’re paying her hotel the night of the wedding.
The Coach wristlet would be a nude colour, and would match their shoes (or at least close enough) for the wedding, and would have space for phone/lipstick/tampons/bandaids/whatever they need for the day. It could also be used later, as none of these girls really carry purses normally and are always on the go, so I figure they can use them again without them looking too wedding-y 🙂
I’m not sure past that point though.