Question about bridesmaids/honorary bridesmaids…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
8721 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Personally I would never make anyone an honourary Bridesmaid or Best Man. That is kind of insulting and pretty much says I felt obligated to do something with you so I made up a title.

Some options would be to have all the girls that you want as your BM’s. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having uneven sides.

Give them another job such as a reader if you are having them.

Or give them the position of guest.


Post # 5
847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@HuskerGirl:  God, no! Make them BMs of you want them to be, but don’t insult them by making them honorary ones or finding some BS task for them to do. It’s not going to make them feel included, trust me. Besides, surely if you have six BMs and three Groomsmen then they could go down the aisle in threes? 


Post # 5
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

HuskerGirl :  Please do not make them personal attendants. Everything I’ve read about this role is that it’s just unpaid labor. Just have them attend as guests. Most people are reasonable and understand that not every friend is going to be included in the wedding. 


Edit to add: zombie thread. What’s wrong with me???

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