Post # 1
So we are getting married in May 2014, and we already have our bridesmaids & groomsmen picked out. The thing is, he ONLY wants his three groomsmen, but I have three other ladies who are not bridesmaids but I would really like to see them a part of our wedding. Does anyone have experience with honorary bridesmaids? Are they a good idea? Would it be a good idea to make the other three ladies honorary bridesmaids? Any help and opinions is/are appreciated!
Post # 3
Personally I would never make anyone an honourary Bridesmaid or Best Man. That is kind of insulting and pretty much says I felt obligated to do something with you so I made up a title.
Some options would be to have all the girls that you want as your BM’s. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having uneven sides.
Give them another job such as a reader if you are having them.
Or give them the position of guest.
Post # 4
@j_jaye: My obsessive-compulsive nature would never let me have uneven sides. Could I make them personal attendants? I don’t feel obligated, I actually want them to be a part of it in some way…gahh so confused
Post # 5
@HuskerGirl: God, no! Make them BMs of you want them to be, but don’t insult them by making them honorary ones or finding some BS task for them to do. It’s not going to make them feel included, trust me. Besides, surely if you have six BMs and three Groomsmen then they could go down the aisle in threes?
Post # 5
HuskerGirl : Please do not make them personal attendants. Everything I’ve read about this role is that it’s just unpaid labor. Just have them attend as guests. Most people are reasonable and understand that not every friend is going to be included in the wedding.
Edit to add: zombie thread. What’s wrong with me???