(Closed) Question about choosing a dress color as a guest…

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do you think?
    Get it! It's perfect : (22 votes)
    49 %
    Ask the bride : (21 votes)
    47 %
    Avoid! Pick another dress to avoid offending anyone : (2 votes)
    4 %
    It's hideous : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I love it, but you should ask the bride what her bridesmaid dresses look like nonchalantly to see if it would clash… but I’m sure you’ll be fine. Unless they are the same, you’ll look great.

    Post # 4
    2434 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    I really like it.  I would have voted to just get it, but it would probably be best for family harmony (and a nice gesture to your FSIL) for you to ask her what she thinks.

    Post # 5
    796 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I would go ahead and ask the bride. I think it would be awesome if guests knew my colors and showed up in them, but who knows what another girl might think.

    Post # 7
    2004 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I think it’s beautiful! I would go for it without asking. If you didn’t know her wedding colors, you would wear it, right? If so, that means it’s appropriate to wear. I have never heard where the wedding colors are off-limits to wedding guests. This could quickly escalate to silliness! Imagine, the bride says her colors are red, blue, yellow, and green. Does that mean you can’t wear anything with those colors in them? If anything, you will look awesome in the photos because your dress will go with everything! 

    Post # 9
    353 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Thats a toughie- I’d ask the bride depending on how close you are. Otherwise it’s a gorgeous dress!

    Post # 10
    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you love the dress go for it.  If you are curious about the BMs you can maybe ask your brother, but I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  I think chelseamorning said it perfectly.

    Post # 11
    1048 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

    I love it! I wouldn’t even think about someone’s wedding colors when picking my own (guest) dress. I wouldn’t wear white, of course… but other than that, I don’t think it matters. I know I have worn a brown dress to a wedding for a friend who’s colors were brown and red… and the BMs were wearing brown dresses too. I didn’t think anything of it, and I don’t think anyone else did either. If anything, you’ll probably end up in lots of photos ’cause you "match" the theme. LOL.

    Post # 12
    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2007

    I think it’s totally cute, but I agree with rosychick to just ask the bride to keep family harmony! You won’t want her to be offended and get off on the wrong foot with you if she’s going to be your FSIL! Plus, she’ll be super flattered that you’re taking an interest in her wedding details!

    Post # 13
    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I’d think about how you’ll feel if is similar to the BMs that people point it out all night.  I’ve been to two weddings now where people kept saying things like "hey, i like your dress, it kind of matches the ones the bridesmaids are wearing."  For me, it got old fast, especially because it had NEVER occurred to me even though I knew what their dresses were.  In any event, I’d guess you’ll be safe.

    Post # 14
    521 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    The only colors I would avoid would be white/white-ish, and black for a lower key daytime wedding.  Unless you show up in the same dress as the BMs, I don’t think you have a problem!

    Post # 15
    1205 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I think it’s fine, but you can still run it by the bride. She’ll probably be happy to hear that you’re giving it some forethought. And like others have mentioned, how often do you know the wedding colors?

    Post # 16
    79 posts
    Worker bee

    Absolutely love the dress!! You have to wear it!

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