Question About Elopement

posted 2 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Yeah, we had an engagement party which was great as it brought together everyone without the pressure of a wedding.

We had initally planned for September 2018, however we changed our minds for a multitude of reasons. We moved, we changed jobs, Dear Fiance was looking for work for a while, and frankly the whole wedding thing scared the bejeesus out of us. We wanted small, no BS, no opinions, just him and I… so we are eloping!

As for “how are the plans going? Have you set a date?”. We kind of have the get out jail free card, with us moving etc. We just politely say “we have had to have a change of plans, and now they have been placed on hold” and we leave it at that.

I love that only he and I know we’re getting married ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We never announced an engagement. The first our family heard of anything was when we called to say we were married. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I let my family know I was engaged, but I was also initially planning a wedding. I think I would have told them anyway if I was planning to elope from the beginning, that way it wouldn’t be as much of a shock when you tell them. If they ask you could just say you’re planning a long engagement and haven’t started planning yet.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2020

I only know one couple who eloped, they had a casual but large engagement party with all of their friends and family.
When asked about their wedding details they just answered “we haven’t decided yet” or “we haven’t planned anything yet” next thing we heard they were married! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

We announced our engagement. When asked have we set a date, he says IDK. I say we’re waiting until after the holidays. 

Now it’s after the holidays and I say we’re working on it or it will be something small and simple. 

11 more days to keep the secret! 

Post # 7
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Newbee

 

munchkin1917 :   Hey! Prior to our elopement we had a lot of family things happen– a loved one passed away and definitely helped us focus on each other and what was truly important. When we were questioned about our wedding during this time, we just said that we want the day to do just that.. focus on eachother and we were figuring out everything else along with that!  ๐Ÿ™‚ Also everyone knew how scattered we were on our attempts to plan (we had thought of doing a wedding in Tulum, in Joshua Tree, an Italian Villa)… so no one was surprised when we said we were still figuring it out for a few months! I would recommend just saying, you guys are focused on making sure the day will be about the 2 of you and are figuring it out!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Newbee

Thanks for posting this question! I am in the same boat. I find that people have mixed reactions to me saying that I’m doing a planned elopement with Fiance… Sometimes people look at me with pity or confusion. It sucks. Not sure how to react. We just want to elope because we are fuss free people and we want a European vacation just to ourselves! 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

So we have been engaged a year and have planned to elope all along. The questions get brutal at every family event, but we leave it at “We just bought a house and we are working on getting are savings back up so the weddings plans haven’t really been finalized yet”. It shuts them up until next family party haha. 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2022

bronzerbee :  I also want to elope in Europe, either Lake Como or Venice. The logistics of it seem scary. How did you plan yours? 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My FSIL’s ex-girlfriend and her girlfriend eloped (or close to it). The only people present at the courthouse were my Future Sister-In-Law, her wife, and the ex-girlfriend’s sister. No one else knew. They didn’t announce an engagement beforehand, so no one questioned them on wedding plans. My Fiance got an email saying, “we would. We do. We did. We got married.” They will have a party sometime this summer to celebrate with everyone.

Post # 12
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Worker bee

We had planned on eloping for money saving reasons and I really wanted an awesome vacation. Now it looks like my parents and possibly my brothers will also be joining us. We’re doing a Sandals resort in the Bahamas. Lots to do and a few places close by for family to stay if they choose to come. So I guess I should stop calling it an elopment and start calling it a small destination wedding haha

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Yes I let my parents, siblings and close friends know we were engaged and had set an elopement date. We asked them to keep it confidential everyone else found out after. My mom, grandpa, a close friend of mine, SIL and stepdaughter attended the elopement 

Post # 15
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Newbee

Everyone will know we’re engaged, when people start asking about wedding date I’ll most likely just tell them that we’re going to elope.  Once we have a date for that I’ll probably just tell my two best friends and then maybe our parents like right before.  But in my case, most everyone in my life will already expect me to elope, so it won’t be a shock to anyone.  

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