(Closed) Question about Etiquette — Meet and Greet before the wedding day

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What about, “Following the rehearsal, the bride and groom will be at the ___ lounge until 9 pm. Guests are welcome to stop by and join us! The lounge serves appetizers and drinks.” or something like that?

Post # 4
Member
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

when my friends got married, they were on a tight budget. young and knocked up. lol. their reception invite was sent on Facebook and stated: meet us at this restaurant for a “no host” lunch.

then everyone knew they needed to pay for their own stuff.

Post # 5
Member
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That’s kinda tough, since I would assume you were paying for my food and drinks.  Could you instead have something at home and do it really cheaply?

My FI’s cousin just got married and did their rehearsal dinner at their home, bbq hot dogs and burgers in the backyard.  BYOB.

Post # 6
Member
3267 posts
Sugar bee

@Asia_Leone: I think the only way to do it is not by any type of organized or formal invites.  But to maybe just let people know at the rehersal that you were planning to go to XXXXXXXX if anyone wanted to tag along for a hang out that would be groovy.

I do think that you do ‘owe’ the rehersee’s some type of refreshment and snack after the rehersal. 

Post # 7
Member
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@andielovesj:  This is a great idea.  Make it casual and word of mouth at the rehearsal or if they ask you before, just say you’ll probably go out somewhere after.

I would offer to buy a round of drinks or something.

Post # 9
Member
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think if you do say anything along the lines of “join us” that people will think its on you. I do agree that the people in the wedding deserve something from you guys.. I also think some people might expect a dinner, so you have to let them know there isn’t one. Maybe hosting something simple at your house is best, then you could ask everyone to please bring an appetizer, whatever to share. Something like that.

Post # 10
Member
4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d think you are paying for things with that invite.

What I wonder is won’t your bridal party be hungry?  You have rehersal at 6 (dinner time) and only appertizers and drinks later (which they are supposed to pay for themselves?) so when do they have dinner?

I def think you should think about doing it at home where you can order pizza or make sandwiches or something.  It’s not really nice to ask people do do stuff for you and then not even feed them.

The topic ‘Question about Etiquette — Meet and Greet before the wedding day’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors