Post # 1
Fiance and I does not want to have a rehearsal dinner (out of our budget). What we want instead if to have a lil meet and greet, where everyone get together after the rehearsal to hang out. Our rehearsal is at 6PM and we want to ask everyone to meet us at a lounge that serves appetizers and cocktail at 9PM. Its just a way to hang out with our family and friends and get to know people before our big day….but we don’t want to pay for anyone’s drinks or food (we are aready paying too much for the wedding).
How is a polite way to let people know. I was going to send an informal email to our family and friends, but if we say Please join us, it sounds like we are saying we are hosting. Is there a nice way to tell them to join us and let them know that we are not paying. Please help!
Post # 3
What about, “Following the rehearsal, the bride and groom will be at the ___ lounge until 9 pm. Guests are welcome to stop by and join us! The lounge serves appetizers and drinks.” or something like that?
Post # 4
when my friends got married, they were on a tight budget. young and knocked up. lol. their reception invite was sent on Facebook and stated: meet us at this restaurant for a “no host” lunch.
then everyone knew they needed to pay for their own stuff.
Post # 5
That’s kinda tough, since I would assume you were paying for my food and drinks. Could you instead have something at home and do it really cheaply?
My FI’s cousin just got married and did their rehearsal dinner at their home, bbq hot dogs and burgers in the backyard. BYOB.
Post # 6
@Asia_Leone: I think the only way to do it is not by any type of organized or formal invites. But to maybe just let people know at the rehersal that you were planning to go to XXXXXXXX if anyone wanted to tag along for a hang out that would be groovy.
I do think that you do ‘owe’ the rehersee’s some type of refreshment and snack after the rehersal.
Post # 7
@andielovesj: This is a great idea. Make it casual and word of mouth at the rehearsal or if they ask you before, just say you’ll probably go out somewhere after.
I would offer to buy a round of drinks or something.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for your help!! I think I’m going to go with:
Following the rehearsal, the bride and groom will be at the ___ lounge until 9 pm. Guests are welcome to stop by and join us! The lounge serves appetizers and drinks.”
Post # 9
I think if you do say anything along the lines of “join us” that people will think its on you. I do agree that the people in the wedding deserve something from you guys.. I also think some people might expect a dinner, so you have to let them know there isn’t one. Maybe hosting something simple at your house is best, then you could ask everyone to please bring an appetizer, whatever to share. Something like that.
Post # 10
I’d think you are paying for things with that invite.
What I wonder is won’t your bridal party be hungry? You have rehersal at 6 (dinner time) and only appertizers and drinks later (which they are supposed to pay for themselves?) so when do they have dinner?
I def think you should think about doing it at home where you can order pizza or make sandwiches or something. It’s not really nice to ask people do do stuff for you and then not even feed them.