(Closed) Question about giving a gift as a bridesmaid

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I was genuinely surprised my bridesmaids gave me wedding presents of very generous amounts. Do what you can afford/want to do and the bride should be happy regardless! 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I think the gift you have already is very nice and totally enough. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee

The understanding is that you’re doing the bride/groom a favor by being in their wedding, not the other way around. Often bridal parties will keep their gifting to a minimum considering the additional cost (travel, accomodation, preparation, showers, etc) that they contribute to the wedding journey. A personalized gift is a lovely idea. Gifting a keepsake that will be meaningful to the couple now and in the future like your cheeseboard is a lovely way to say congratulations!

The true gift of course is being there to celebrate them on their big day! The fact that the couple asked guests to donate to a charity in lieu of gifts suggests they won’t be expecting gifts, physical or cash.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

This is an interesting question! My best friend (for whom I was maid of honor) did not expect gifts from her wedding party at all. Other friends I have been bridesmaids for (or have just talked to about the duties in general) beleive that being a bridesmaids means spending more on a wedding gift. I would say give around the same amount or even less than normal if you really spent a lot to be a bridesmaid- but you probably know your friends best.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

If you paid for your dress then I don’t think any gift is necessary. If the couple paid, I would gift as normal.

I was in a wedding recently which I travelled from the UK to Australia for, and we still gifted the same as we usually would. If I’d had to buy my dress though I would likely have just given something very small/just a card.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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danina246 :  I am not expecting gifts from my bridesmaids. I have a feeling my MOH’s (I have 2) will probably do something sweet and personal but by no means do I expect anything. My wedding is expensive. Not just for me but for our guests. It is a luxury resort and for those staying there thats even too much for me to ask. And some bridesmaids will have to travel for our wedding. With that, the dresses, the hair and makeup, shoes, and whatever bachelorette thing we end up doing (looking at a beach getaway for a long weekend) I almost feel guilty just asking them to be there. A handwritten card would be totally enough for me. I’m about to tell them to not get me anything. I will be treating them to a spa day beforehand at the resort but I feel like that isn’t even enough thanks….I wish I could afford to pay for their gowns or their hair and makeup but this wedding is just racking up in costs so I can’t. Luckily I have very understanding and chill bridesmaids. 

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