(Closed) Question about handfasting

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I wrote a handfasting ceremony for my little sister’s Christian ceremony.  🙂  You can change the wording/symbology of the ceremony to whatever you want, though.  I think someone else on here was talking about a handfasting ceremony that uses the symbology of the three cords (Ecclesiastes 4:12, I think), which I thought was very appropriate.

Post # 4
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Some traditional Christian services have the minister/priest tied the couple’s hands together with his/her stole, and then say something like “what God has joined together, let no one put asunder.”

You might want to look in an Anglican or Episcopal prayerbook for details.

Post # 5
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’ve heard that handfasting is a pagan ritual of engagement. Now, I know some Christians incorporate a lot of pagan imagery, so maybe if you do this early in the ceremony (to show commitment, not marriage) it would be best, along with the verses previous posters have provided.

Post # 6
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m an Orthodox Christian, and we do a form of ‘handfasting’ in our wedding ceremonies, so it is indeed appropriate for a Christian ceremony.^^  The couple’s right hands are joined together, covered by the priest’s stole, and then usually only separated by the Bible.  I know that many neo-pagans practice this ritual, and it probably even came from pre-Christian roots.  However, many things in Christianity have non-Christian roots (Christmas and Easter symbols etc.)  In Orthodoxy we often talk about ‘baptizing’ traditions to make them Christian.  There’s no need to associate handfasting with neo-pagan traditions any more than we associate Easter eggs with pre-Christian traditions. 

Post # 8
374 posts
Helper bee

  It is an anglican tradition; but widely adopted and is used by some Christian glergy non anglican; just like you don’t have to be Jewish to have a cuppah, in which case it’s called an arbor. 

Just  make sure your officiant is OK to do it.  S[he] may not wear a stole in an outdoor ceremony so you need to talk this over first.

I personally think it’s lovely and a great alternative to the candle and sand.  If something isn’t Christian, it’s the sand ceremony and people do it all the time now.  It’s made up, I think.  It’s not pagan, it’s not anything.  It’s a ritual.

It’s the symbolism you give to your ritual that is important.  You can invent a new ritual.


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