Post # 1
Hi fellow bees!
Here is my dillema… My bridal party consist of
1 Matron of Honor
1 Best Man
1 Maid of Honor
The Matron of honor and the best man are both married. I need to figure out this Head Table thing.
Can I just ask the bridesmaid and groomsmen to be at the Head Table? (They are all single with no significant other…well so far…lol)
Or will it be rude to put out the Maid of Honor, Matron of Honor and Best Man?
Post # 3
It’s all or nothing. The MOH’s and the Best Man would likely be offended if you sat them elsewhere.
What is your reasoning for considering this?
Post # 4
@julies1949: I don’t mind putting them at the table, but they won’t be sitting with thier SO, and they might not be happyu about that no? It’s the space we have in front of that fireplace. It’s a little small that spot for our head table….
Post # 5
If you’re having a head table with the entire bridal party then SOs should not be included. If you want the bridal party to be able to sit with SOs then you should have a sweetheart table and bridal party at separate tables.
Post # 6
Our bridal party is sitting separate from their dates. They dates will all be nearby, but there isn’t room to have a table of 18 people up there (which is what it would be if we included dates!). We’re making sure the dates know someone (my sister’s husband will sit with my parents, etc), but they won’t be at the head table.
I think it’s rude to sit anyone in the bridal party separately when you aren’t seating everyone separately, and seating the honor attendants somewhere other than the head table is definitely rude.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
why don’t you just do a sweetheart table if you can’t fit everyone with their dates? Are your bridesmaids and groomsmen not having dates?
Post # 8
We seated our Bridal Party family style, and so did my sister for her & her DH’s wedding a few years ago.
At ours, we had us, our two sets of parents, and our best man & the maid of honor (one of my sisters) at our table; at the next table over we had the matron of honor (my other sister) & her husband & daughter (flower girl), my brother (groomsman) & his fiance, as well as my BIL’s parents. At the third Bridal Party table we had the other groomsman & his wife, the other bridesmaid & her husband, & the other flower girl with her parents. These were all round tables clustered in the middle of the room next to the microphone, with the rest of the guest tables all around us.
Post # 9
a head table usually only consists of the wedding party, not their dates. your other option is a sweetheart table and then let the bridal party sit at regular tables with their dates.
Post # 10
@abbie017: OK I’ll sit everybody together, but no SO. ANd no parents either right?
Post # 11
@MeiFrancis: They don’t have dates so far, all single. One bridesmaid is married but husband is out of the country. Sweetheart table didn’t discuss it with Fiancé yet… But it would be nice in front of the fireplace just a table for us two!!!
Post # 12
Thanks guys for helping out!!! Now who wants to help me with my centerpiece idea? lol
Post # 13
Screw etiquette. I think it’s much nicer to put them with their SOs, especially if they’re married. We’re having a larger table with the entire bridal party PLUS their SOs. Just a normal big table, not a front facing head table, I find those to be awkward. You want to sit with your husband, don’t you think they want to sit with theirs? Either put them at a separate table (the entire bridal party, not just the ones w/ SOs) or don’t have a head table, but I think that etiquette is outdated and it’s actually more rude to split up a couple. In my particular social circle I’ve never seen it where a couple is ever split up at dinner. They’re either included in the head table or there is no head table.
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@BookishBelle: We’re doing this too, I’m suprised by some responses…
Post # 15
@BookishBelle: Actually it’s only adding 2 people….I could maybe try to change what I had in mind so everybody could sit with their SO. OMG So much work|
Post # 16
I agree with PP that a sweetheart table may be the best route to go. Though, something about a head table has never set right with me. No one ever looks comfortable up there or like they are having fun… they look awkward and on display. As a PP suggested the wedding party sitting family style could be a way to go…. the wedding party can still sit at a long elaborately decorated table… just on both sides rather than one. Like this one: