(Closed) Question about head table! Please help!

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
46416 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s all or nothing. The MOH’s and the Best Man would likely be offended if you sat them elsewhere.

What is your reasoning for considering this?

Post # 5
3755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

If you’re having a head table with the entire bridal party then SOs should not be included. If you want the bridal party to be able to sit with SOs then you should have a sweetheart table and bridal party at separate tables. 

Post # 6
13014 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Our bridal party is sitting separate from their dates.  They dates will all be nearby, but there isn’t room to have a table of 18 people up there (which is what it would be if we included dates!).  We’re making sure the dates know someone (my sister’s husband will sit with my parents, etc), but they won’t be at the head table.

I think it’s rude to sit anyone in the bridal party separately when you aren’t seating everyone separately, and seating the honor attendants somewhere other than the head table is definitely rude.

Post # 7
6215 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

why don’t you just do a sweetheart table if you can’t fit everyone with their dates? Are your bridesmaids and groomsmen not having dates?


Post # 8
3697 posts
Sugar bee

We seated our Bridal Party family style, and so did my sister for her & her DH’s wedding a few years ago.

At ours, we had us, our two sets of parents, and our best man & the maid of honor (one of my sisters) at our table; at the next table over we had the matron of honor (my other sister) & her husband & daughter (flower girl), my brother (groomsman) & his fiance, as well as my BIL’s parents. At the third Bridal Party table we had the other groomsman & his wife, the other bridesmaid & her husband, & the other flower girl with her parents. These were all round tables clustered in the middle of the room next to the microphone, with the rest of the guest tables all around us.

Post # 9
11272 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

a head table usually only consists of the wedding party, not their dates.   your other option is a sweetheart table and then let the bridal party sit at regular tables with their dates.

Post # 13
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Screw etiquette. I think it’s much nicer to put them with their SOs, especially if they’re married. We’re having a larger table with the entire bridal party PLUS their SOs. Just a normal big table, not a front facing head table, I find those to be awkward. You want to sit with your husband, don’t you think they want to sit with theirs? Either put them at a separate table (the entire bridal party, not just the ones w/ SOs) or don’t have a head table, but I think that etiquette is outdated and it’s actually more rude to split up a couple. In my particular social circle I’ve never seen it where a couple is ever split up at dinner. They’re either included in the head table or there is no head table. 

Post # 14
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@BookishBelle:  We’re doing this too, I’m suprised by some responses…

Post # 16
37 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

I agree with PP that a sweetheart table may be the best route to go. Though, something about a head table has never set right with me. No one ever looks comfortable up there or like they are having fun… they look awkward and on display. As a PP suggested the wedding party sitting family style could be a way to go…. the wedding party can still sit at a long elaborately decorated table… just on both sides rather than one. Like this one:

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