Post # 17
@RhubarbPie: I totally understand what you are saying! I have simply stated it will not happen! I advised our DJ, and my family. Its your wedding and YOU have control. We will have a session of Jewish Dance songs but neither my Fiance, or myself care to do the lifting of the chairs so we won’t. This is your time to shine a be the PRINCESS that your Daddy raised so just say NO!!!!!!!
Post # 18
@RhubarbPie: I’m terrified of going up in the chair for the same reasons but then I remember that at my brother in law’s wedding (he is 6’2 and fairly built) he was lifted up with no problem.
Folks that are used to taking part in the hora know what to do. If more people are needed to lift you I’m sure they will just jump in. You should definitely talk to a core group of people that you trust to lift you beforehand so that they know what to do.
Just remember, keep your knees together, hold on tight and SMILE!
Post # 19
This is a huge concern for me as well. I really want to be able to do the hora and be lifted and everything, but I’m 5’3″, size 22, annnd I just have this picture in my head of a bunch of dudes lifting my chair a foot off the ground at which point I fall off while my smaller FI/husband is bouncing around high in the air in his easily lifted chair. 😛
I think the plan is to pick out a group of guys we think are up to it ahead of time and do a little trial run. If it goes badly, then we just won’t do the chair lift.
Post # 20
I was worried about this for my husband. Our wedding was 3 weeks ago and things worked out perfectly. Darling Husband is 300+ lbs and our friends and family hoisted him up like he weighed next to nothing! Relax and enjoy!!
Post # 21
I am also plus size, and have a fear of open heights, as well as I am converting to Judaism, so am not experienced with a hora from a Bat Mitzvah, so I totally understand your fears! I’ve already told my SO that I’m claiming my fire fighter friend, paramedic best friend, and ex-football player cousin on my chair when it’s time.
Post # 22
I am plus size (size 24/26) and I’m just straight up refusing to do it. Plain and simple. I dont care, there is no way Im getting lifted in a chair. I think that since its MY WEDDING I should be able to make decisions that will make ME happiest at my important day.
Post # 23
@RhubarbPie: Ahhh the hora, my absolute favorite moment during a Jewish wedding reception! I think that regardless of size, everyone is terrified of getting lifted by guests who have probably had too much to drink by the time it rolls around, and falling off onto the dance floor.
I think no matter how big you are, your friends and family will get you up there. I have seen ladies get lifted by as many as 8-10 guys. You may want to designtate strong chair lifters and let them know in advance, and trust me other folks will join in to lift you up in the air!
Just hold on tight, make sure to lean back and not forward, keep your legs crossed and ENJOY!