(Closed) question about invitation etiquette

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
773 posts
Busy bee

I’d probably send them each their own invitation, because it seems like an easy way to make her feel good.  I’m not sure what traditional etiquette says on this one (sorry!) but she’s an adult, and it might be nice for her to get her own invite.

Post # 4
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with amandopolis.  Send her one addressed just to her.  You can probably put them both in an envelope together if you wanted to have inner envelopes.  She would probably feel very special and very happy to get her own.

Post # 5
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think traditional etiquette says that an unmarried child living with parents should be included on the parents’ invitation.  BUT…I really don’t think traditional etiquette has to apply in all situations.  It should be modified to not offend your guests (which is the reason to follow etiquette in the first place).  So in this case, I agree with the above posters, send her own invite.  There’s no harm, hard to see how anyone could get offended, and you might make her day as a bonus ๐Ÿ™‚  I would not put them in the same envelope, though, but that’s just me.

Post # 6
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Traditional etiquette is that children over 16 (18 for some experts) should receive their own invitation. Or at least, that’s what I’m always reading.

Etiquette aside, I’d send her her own invitation. It’s, what, an extra $5.00, max? =) I agree with amandopolis — it will probably make her feel better than if you just included her on an invitation meant for your FH’s uncle. 

Post # 7
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

MS has already taken some of this woman’s independence… I think it would be nice to not take any more from her.  She really deserves her own invitation!

Post # 8
2640 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with Jenniphyr.  I’ve always read that children living with their parents who are 18, get their own invitations.  But regardless, I also vote to send her a seperate invitation.

Post # 9
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

they receive separate invitations.  I’ve tripled checked this one as we have a similar situation. She’ll love just having the invitation and sharing in your joy ๐Ÿ™‚

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