Post # 1
i have a question – because honestly Mr.JuneBride and I just do not know…ok – so his cousin, who is in her 40’s, still lives with her father because she has MS (multiple sclerosis) and can not live on her own. 🙁
his uncle (her father) might come to the wedding, but obviously she would not be able to travel…however – he still wants to actually invite her. The question is – do we just send an invitation to his uncle with her name on it? ie, address it to:
Uncle Tom & Sarah (not real names, lol)
Or do we send them each one of their own?
What would you do?
Post # 3
I’d probably send them each their own invitation, because it seems like an easy way to make her feel good. I’m not sure what traditional etiquette says on this one (sorry!) but she’s an adult, and it might be nice for her to get her own invite.
Post # 4
I agree with amandopolis. Send her one addressed just to her. You can probably put them both in an envelope together if you wanted to have inner envelopes. She would probably feel very special and very happy to get her own.
Post # 5
I think traditional etiquette says that an unmarried child living with parents should be included on the parents’ invitation. BUT…I really don’t think traditional etiquette has to apply in all situations. It should be modified to not offend your guests (which is the reason to follow etiquette in the first place). So in this case, I agree with the above posters, send her own invite. There’s no harm, hard to see how anyone could get offended, and you might make her day as a bonus 🙂 I would not put them in the same envelope, though, but that’s just me.
Post # 6
Traditional etiquette is that children over 16 (18 for some experts) should receive their own invitation. Or at least, that’s what I’m always reading.
Etiquette aside, I’d send her her own invitation. It’s, what, an extra $5.00, max? =) I agree with amandopolis — it will probably make her feel better than if you just included her on an invitation meant for your FH’s uncle.
Post # 7
MS has already taken some of this woman’s independence… I think it would be nice to not take any more from her. She really deserves her own invitation!
Post # 8
I agree with Jenniphyr. I’ve always read that children living with their parents who are 18, get their own invitations. But regardless, I also vote to send her a seperate invitation.
Post # 9
they receive separate invitations. I’ve tripled checked this one as we have a similar situation. She’ll love just having the invitation and sharing in your joy 🙂
Post # 10
thank you all so much for replying!!! that settles that. She will get her own. 🙂