(Closed) Question about invites.

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you either need to sit down with your mom and explain your feelings on this or suck it up and let her be on the invite. In the grand scheme of things, is this the most important thing that could start a feud between your mother? Are you willing to make things tense between you and her during this time in your life when i’m guessing you probably want her around?

Post # 4
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree with the situations that you brought up about who is paying and who should be on the invite.  I also think it is a lot about your relationship with your parents and your personal preference.  We are having both sets of parents names on our invites and it has nothing to do with who is paying.  We just simply would like our parents names on our invites.  Ours will say

Bride’s Name & Groom’s Name

along with

Bride’s parents’ names


Groom’s parents’ names

Post # 5
9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

If it’s more of a big deal to her than to you,I would just go along with putting their names on there to honor them.  If it’s a *really* big deal to you, stick to your guns.  I like @NavyBride16: ‘s suggestion if you do put them on there.

We’re saying “Together with their families, Bride and Groom invite you to share in our joy as we unite in marriage” or something like that.  So it still references our families but isn’t super traditional.  (Note: my parents are paying for about 60%, his parents 30%, us 10% – but this is cool with everyone.)

Post # 6
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Perhaps you can word it like this:

Together with their families




Invite you to celebrate their marriage…

Then I think it’s clear that you’re not having your family pay for all of it, but you’re still including them.



Post # 7
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I can tell you that as a guest, I don’t care what the invite says. It doesn’t matter to me who is paying. So if it’s a big deal to your mom, I’d just go with it. 

Post # 8
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

 My parents aren’t paying but fiances parents are and we are still having both sets of names on the invites out of respect. i didn’t want it at first but my mother inlaw said it would be a nice gesture so I did it. Our wording is the same as NavyBride16 wording above

Post # 9
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m going to agree with those up top. If it’s more of a big deal to her than it is to you, do the “Together with their families”…and if it really bothers you, talk to your mom about it. 

I really don’t think the general public is going to read any invitation and think “Oh, well, her parents must have paid for it!”

I do, however, think it’s a nice way to honor your folks, after all, they raised this wonderful bride, who’s put together this wonderful wedding, and will surely be a wonderful wife. 

Post # 10
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@jenilynevette:  My Fiance and I are in the same boat (we’re paying, moms helped with part of the dress/photography) and we worded it “<FI and I> invite you…”, but we have a page in our wedding program that thanks them for their contributions.

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