(Closed) Question about no-shows

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We had one late cancel I KNEW was going to flake (but stuck her in the seating chart anyway. Because I’m stupid)

And 2 people who couldn’t make it because of a medical emergency (Brain bleed 5 days before the wedding)

So 3 out of our 45 guests!

Post # 4
5955 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We didn’t have any no shows.  And if we had I’d have been pretty shocked and super annoyed (assuming they didn’t follow up with a really good reason).

I was at a wedding recently and I noticed that there were seval no shows, some of them people I knew.  How rude.  It actually changed my impression of those people (probably not fair as I don’t know if they communicated with the couple to say they weren’t coming).  Being reliable is something I prize highly in friends.  Flakes are one of my main pet peves.

Post # 5
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We had 2 no-shows. I expected them not to come but when she turned up to the shower I tentatively started thinking she might come. Big day, no show, tried to call me that night but couldn’t be bothered with her. Caught up with her later. 

Post # 6
7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hollyberry4:  We had 2 out of a guest list of 100. Both were for medical reasons so there was no way of predicting it.

Post # 7
1227 posts
Bumble bee

As far as I know we only had one couple not show up. I didn’t notice and my husband didn’t realize until a few days later. They sent us a very apologetic email, and we are looking forward to celebrating with them another time.

Post # 9
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I hate when people get flaky. It irritates me to no end. I have one “friend” who kept waffling back and forth over whether or not she was going to go because she doesn’t like a couple of the other guests there (out of 107 people…). I told her if she wasn’t going to show up, just tell me now. She kept waffling and trying to make things about how she would feel, which I totally understand as she would be my guest, but I tried to seat her near people she did like. In the end I got super pissed when she said she didn’t think she should go because she’s such a problem (martyr role) and that it’s not like she would be “hanging out” with me anyway. Really?? I didn’t answer and have taken her off the seating chart.


Post # 10
3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We didn’t have any no-shows. In the week before the wedding, we had five people tell us they suddenly couldn’t come and two people who told us they suddenly could, but everybody we expected to be there on the day of was there.

Post # 12
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hollyberry4:  I know and I really wish I were exaggerating 🙁

Post # 13
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We had about 250 guests. On the day-of, one couple didn’t show (one of them got pretty intense food poisoning), and one couple left right after the ceremony (which wasn’t a surprise, although they didn’t say they would do that.) We also had someone show up (after dinner) that we didn’t know. Turns out, after 2 years, we finally discovered who it was. I didn’t mind, but getting her photobooth photos was…strange.

I also had someone who e-mailed me a week before the wedding saying he didn’t realize he’d been invited and then found the invitation and he would try to make it work if that was still okay with me. I said it was, but he wasn’t able to make it (he lives out-of-state). I wasn’t sure what to do day-of, so I stuck him at a table that would be/appear full without him. No big deal.

The only one that bugged me was a friend who didn’t show on the day-of even though she was at a gathering a couple days before the wedding. I found out later she was photographing a wedding. She’s an amateur and of course needs to take any opportunity that arises! I wouldn’t at all have been upset if she’d told me, but instead, she didn’t, and I’d even ordered a vegan dish for her. We haven’t really spoken since, because she never even offered an apology. It’s not that I’d refuse to socialize with her, but I haven’t reached out and neither has she. We weren’t particularly close to begin with, though. 

So all-in-all, 3 no-shows, 2 only-ceremony guests, and 1 I-didn’t-know-what-was-happening-and-neither-did-he guest. (The no-show couple also gave us $500–which is above and beyond in our area, so who could be mad at that??)


Post # 14
2968 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we had 30 no shows.

2 people told us that they may not be able to make it due to illness, so i wasn’t surprised (or mad) when they didn’t show.

1 couple had to work.

1 couple came to our ceremony, but missed the reception (something about having to take their daughter somewhere…? i dunno). but we appreciated the fact that they made a point to come visit with us for a few moments and they gave us a gift too.

1 couple skipped the reception without a word.

on my side, most of the no-shows were’t surprising, unfortunately. my dad has a very flakey family. they either say they’ll be there and then don’t show or show up without warning (this goes for everything, not just weddings).

for my husband’s side… i found out after the wedding that he had told some people to rsvp “yes” even though they didn’t know if they could come, so they’d have a seat just in case. i wasn’t happy about that.

Post # 16
756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We had 85 people and only one couple didn’t show up because they said they thought our wedding was on Saturday instead of Friday. WTF. But they were relatives on my husbands side and I’ve never met them, so not sure if that’s typical of them. I was surprised we didn’t have more no shows honestly because I got most of my husband’s side of the family’s RSVPs through word of mouth by my Mother-In-Law. It was a mess. It’s a miracle everyone showed up. 

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