Post # 1
New to the boards. Finding them very informative! As a 22 year old man, you know where my heart and head are at if I am reading through wedding boards and forums…!
Ive got the ring on the way, and the proposal is (nervously) being planned. We will be traveling together soon, and I aspire to overcoming my excitement/nerves long enough to propose on this trip. We dated through college 3 years and, as Im sure you all can relate, we have discussed marraige on an almost daily basis for about a year.
The proposal will still be a surprise, of course!
My question is (and a short summary of our situation as it is pertinent), is it more difficult to plan a wedding while in school or while working full-time (post-college).
She is a year behind me in school. I graduated and now have a full time gig and am working on post-graduate studies. My job caused me to move, and she graciously left her friends and transferred to finsih up her last 1.5 years near me.
As I said, I would like to propose very soon. I am just concerned with ease of planning the wedding. On first shake, it seems as though it would be much easier to plan a wedding while in school (she doesn’t work, just class). Being a full-time professional, I know how busy I am (but hey, its not going to get any less busy). But at the same time, I have heard that it is tough to plan a wedding while in school (primarily from those who are still in school and haven’t been to the “real world yet.”
Anyway, could I get some advice/past experiences from you all. I appreciate any help
Post # 3
Hi there and welcome to the bee!
There are a TON of bees here who plan a wedding while going to school! I am not one of them, but wanted to let you know that it can certainly be done!
Sorry I can’t give you much more advice (I’ll leave that up to the experienced school/wedding planning bees) but just wanted to say welcome!
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s too difficult to plan it either way. I am in both school and working full time and planning the wedding. Granted, it will be a lot of work if you plan to do most things DIY and on a budget. As long as you give yourselves plenty of time any situation you have with work or school will be able to be worked around. If she has a light course load and just classes I think it might be the perefct time for her to plan!
Good luck with your proposal!
Post # 5
THIS IS SO SWEET! As a sucka for love I say DO IT NOW!!!!!!!!!!! If she wants to wait until after she graduates she can do that…with the ring on her finger! LOL!!!!!
Post # 6
I would say, go ahead and propose now. Discuss the timing of the wedding with her after you propose and I’m sure she’ll let you know whether it’s something she’d like to tackle while she’s in school or wait till she’s working. I think the answer to the question probably varies widely by person and the most important opinion is your girlfriend’s. Good luck!
Post # 7
Definitely propose now! Let her choose when the wedding is. I think that a big factor is who is paying. If you and she plan to pay for it, it’d probably be easier after she’s been working for a year so you have more money. If you’re in a situation where parents are going to pay then it probably doesn’t matter, or would be slightly easier to plan while she is in school because you could plan around her breaks and you wouldn’t both have to worry about getting time off work for a honeymoon.
Either way, congrats in advance!
Post # 8
Great advice so far, I do believe, have to say I agree with what you all are thinking. Corgitales hit the nail on the head with the financing comment, that was something I have largely thought to be a factor in regards to when the best time for planning a wedding is. Thankfully we both come from blessed families who have been financially successful, and we don’t think that funding the wedding will be difficult (not that it will be a very expensive one in the first place, family and a few very close friends…).
Thanks for the advice and I welcome even more. It is always good to receive others’ opinions, it brings up things that I may not have thought about.
Post # 9
I think you’re better off proposing now and then you can decide when to plan the wedding together.. you can do it quicky (summer 2011) if she prefers to plan in school.. or any other time (fall 2012!) if she wants to plan when she’s working. Engagement doesn’t necessarily determine wedding date.. you guys do! good luck!
Post # 10
I deffinately think you should propose now, you don’t want her to turn into an evil waiting monster. lol. I have a few friends who have planned their wedding while going to school and they turned out absolutely beautiful.
Congratulations and best of luck!!!
Post # 11
@Mrs.LetsGoPens: LOL Seriously!
After you propose, sit down and figure out finances. After you do that then figure out a schedule month to month leading up to the wedding. Like say you want a 2012 wedding and you want to start planning in Jan. Make yourself a list of tasks to finish. That way it doesn’t seem like you have to do everything all at once.