Post # 1
My fiance and I have decided to put our registry up on our website.
My dilemma is this. We have a traditional regristry, that has glasses, frames, coooking things, etc, but since my fiance and I are in our 30s, and have most household things, we really wanted to put items up that would reflect our style and our art collections. This being said, we are into slightly macabre / odd items, like antuque medical implements, taxidermy, old movie posters, bones, etc. Now, I would put items on a list like amazon, that has a universal wish list button that allows you to add to your registry from anywhere, but a problem with antique / oddity stores is that they are filled with one of a kind items and there is no way of knowing how long they will last
I was thinking it might be fun to let our guests decide how “wacky” they want to get with their gift ( if any )
Do you think It would be tacky to add a gift card recommendations from certain stores as well as a traditional registry, or do you think thats ok? If so, how shoud I word it? Any advice is welcome!
Post # 3
we’re using amazon’s wedding registry for this same reason. as for etiquette I don’t have much so i MAY not be the best person to ask; however the fact we registered for all clad pans with Doctor Who salt and pepper shakers speaks for itself.
The people we’re inviting know us- it’s a small affair the ones who would be offended re: extended family, are only getting announcement cards after the weeding, I don’t expect them to come nor want them to or want anything from them- that said I do not hate them or anything, we’re just different people. My mom’s family is huge, traditional, conservative and very very old fashioned. my mom was the rebel..there may be a pattern.
i tried to bring myself to register at macy’s but I could not justify 200 dollar sheets- i grabbed a few items from west elm and like i said the Fiance wanted some all clad (he cooks I don’t) the rest of our stuff is a mismatch of random crap that we want that we wouldn’t buy ourselves because we buy things like blenders. 🙂
hope this helps.
Post # 4
@PugsandUnicorns: Thanks for the words. It helped in the way that I now know we arent the only weirdos, haha! You also helped me realize what I was really trying to say
All of our people know us really well, and know we collect the strange, so its not a matter of making anyone uncomfortable. My main concern is I dont want to look too greedy. Are too many options going to look that way? Am I over thinking this whole thing?
Post # 5
My personal advice would be to have a small traditional registry for some fun around the house stuff (immersion blender?, candlesticks? board games?). It sounds like you have soe family that might appreciate that and ultimately it mmight avoid the 15 cut crystal bowls you might get otherwise. I also think it is perfectly acceptable and awesome to let people know you like some weird crazy stuff. Maybe a little statement like “We love antique medical equipment and artifacts – if it makes your cringe, we probably love it! Some of our favorite stores include xxx and xxx”. And I hope you get it. I love old random gory stuff!!! I’m in genetics so human oddities is totally my thing.
Post # 6
well, the more you put the idea is the more people have to choose from- with that being said you could also leave it as a place holder for yourself. Things you two want to buy for yourselves in the future etc.
There is a supposed rule that it’s 2 for everyone 1 person so they have two choices- with that being said i don’t think you have to and i know we didn’t. We have maybe 30ish things on it? The rest is on the totally tacky honeymoon registry. Again no one we know thinks it’s tacky because they know we’re fronting this entire wedding in Chicago and no one thinks you can marry in Chicago for under 10k…and we are because I am crazy and cutting corners in unconventional ways- our caterer is a non profit who makes organic food for the homeless- our florist is a non profit who employs the mentality ill- our people know this and think that since we’re willing to spend our money on things that go back to the community they least they can do is send us to some pretty place for 5 nights and also give us some Doctor Who stuff 🙂
good luck! I think you have it!
Post # 7
@bndmusicfactory: if you use the amazon just add those odd items. people will take it form there and give a gift card to that store if they’d like