(Closed) Question about Registry…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it okay that I have a registry?
    It's fine. : (14 votes)
    78 %
    Normally I would say no, but since it's so small I think it's okay. : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Not okay. : (2 votes)
    11 %
    I have a different opinion and I've listed it below. : (1 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    464 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think it’s perfectly fine to have a registry and I wouldn’t stress about it at all 🙂

    Post # 4
    2600 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Definitely don’t stress!  I’m an encore and have a few ‘big’ registries.  Whether or not we get what’s on them doesn’t concern us.   We listed all the things we needed, and a few wants and I’m not going to worry about people saying stuff about me being gift grabby.  🙂

    Post # 5
    7295 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    i dont think u have anything to worry about and even if u hadnt done a registry, i would say the same!

    Post # 7
    1501 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wouldn’t worry about it.

    People will complain either way.

    Post # 8
    658 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Don’t worry about it. I’m an encore bride too, and I have a registry too.

    Post # 9
    10588 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I think it’s fine.  In your case, I would wait for people to ask if you’re registered anywhere before telling them.  Just a slightly more strict version of the word of mouth rule.

    Post # 11
    3638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I always give a gift for weddings. But I don’t like giving cash, so a registry is great! There is always something to update etc. Go for it. 🙂

    Post # 12
    1696 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Ms.Shamrock: Yes, you’re stu… no, I can’t say it. But you are misguided to be worried about this. And yes, it’s fine. For that matter, I have a registry — have had for about forty-five years — and I’m not even a bride.

    Note, that you didn’t call it a “gift” registry. Here’s a polite fiction (or, in my case, a reality that you are welcome to share) behind the gracious use of registries:

    Think of every household item you would like for serving all the fancy teas and dinners and for hosting all houseguests you ever dreamed of in the nicest style you can aspire to. Write down the heirloom-quality items you will eventually need to practice that standard of hospitality. That’s your registry. Plan to acquire them otrye to help you keep track of your long-term plan.

    Now, anyone who snoops into your registry, may give you a head-start on that long-term plan (but they are still snooping, and entitled to the same guilty pleasure that people get when peeking inside the medicine cabinet in the guest-bathroom when visiting). And if they don’t like what they see while snooping, well, honi soit qui mal i pense.

    Post # 13
    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My friend’s Mom asked for ‘no gifts, but if you insist, we would love an addition to our wine cellar’.  I thought that was cool.

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