(Closed) question about registry info on invite.

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We did seperate inserts in the invitation that had the registry information. While not exactly proper etiquette, everybody appreciated the fact that they didn’t have to ask around for the information.

Post # 4
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505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You could just provide a link on your invitation to your website and then put your registry information on your website. 

Post # 5
Hostess
18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Are you having a shower?  Usually those have cards in them saying where you are registered.

Post # 6
Hostess
4600 posts
Honey bee

I know if I’ve said this once, I’ve said it 1000 times. It really, truly, depends on you social circle. In my family and ALL of my friends and the 7 (7!!!!) weddings I’ve been to this year have had the registry info included in the invites. We will not deter from this when we do our invites either.

Post # 8
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4485 posts
Honey bee

Registry info in the invites is always a breach of etiquette, no matter what the circumstances are. You don’t have any family or friends attending at all? Unless you are only inviting family, then no, lots of times people don’t know your other guests at all but they are still able to figure out where you are registered. Also, it is ok to tell guests who ask you where you are registered via word of mouth.

Post # 9
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MmeSilverBullet: I have to agree with you. Only the bride and groom can really say how certain wedding things will be accepted. You kind of have to do what makes sense for your wedding.

The whole word of mouth thing as far as registry info stems from a time when invites were hand-delivered and all of the guests were in the same community. That time has long past and there’s nothing wrong with changing with the times.

Post # 10
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Honey bee

The difference is that tradition can be kept or changed. This is etiquette which is place to prevent awkward social situations and is NOT to be changed, regardless of whether people think it is outdated or not. Be prepared for many offended guests if you do include registry cards.

Post # 11
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5788 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Do what works for you, but I don’t think registry cards are necessary even without word of mouth. Odds are the couple is registered at Macys/Target/Bed Bath and Beyond/Crate and Barrel. I’ve never received a registry card or asked the brides family and I have always managed to figure it out.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d put it on your website…mywedding.com is one of many free sites that takes maybe 5-10 minutes to set up. Then, just do a card with your invitation suite that says something like “For accommodations and other information, please visit…”

Post # 15
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2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We’re having a small one, too. It’s just a good idea because then you don’t have to make a bazillion insert cards and spend more on postage. People are more tech-savvy than you give them credit for–how hard is it to log on to the Internet, type in a web address, and check out the site? Most people would be able to figure it out. But hey, it’s your thing. Just know that registry info right on the invite generally leaves a bad taste in people’s mouths.

Post # 16
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875 posts
Busy bee

DO NOT SEND it on or in your wedding invitation.  You are inviting them to a celebration, and are not asking for a gift.  (Yes, gifts are traditionally given to the couple, but they are not to be asked for in the invitation.)  People are smarter than you think… they will figure out who to ask for registry information from, and can even check out a couple registries to hunt for your information online with very little difficulty.  You can and should share your registry information with your families, and wedding party members…  I’ve gotten invitations with gift registry information enclosed and I always feel like the bride didn’t do any homework on a proper invitation when I see that included.  I actually don’t even like to see the gift enclosures in a shower invitation, even though, I know that technically they are okay…  I do think that it’s okay to have your registry information included on a webpage tab that someone must click to open… because if they are clicking on the tab, then they are asking you for the information. 

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