Post # 1
The rehearsal at our venue was scheduled for 2 days before our wedding. GMs may not be in town yet, but my BMs and all of our family will. Nothing is going to be too intricate, and I think GMs will be able to figure it out the day of.
We really want to host all of our families/bridal party at a unique restaurant near our house, but it is about 90 minutes from the venue.
Everyone is going to be within 20 minutes of the venue, so there isn’t much travel required for the actual rehearsal. I would hate for everyone to drive over an hour to San Diego after the rehearsal finished, but we really want everyone to experience some awesome food and great beer.
Would it be okay to have a “rehearsal dinner” the evening after the rehearsal? Or should we scrap the restaurant near our house and pick something closer to the venue so we can do it directly after.
Post # 3
@somerrae: If everyone will be in town on the Friday, I see no reason not to hold the rehearsal dinner then.
I do however think it is a bit much asking people to drive over an hour to a restauarant.
I would have the dinner Friday, but pick something closer to where they are all staying.
Post # 4
The last thing I want to do after traveling to get to a wedding, is traveling to eat food. I would move it closer to where they are staying.
Post # 5
Our venue is in somewhat of a small town, with not much going on (besides awesome vineyards). However, San Diego (where we live) is an awesome city with plenty to do. My thought process is that hopefully people would be spending the day sight seeing in San Diego (my side is all local, but FI’s side is using the time surrounding our wedding as a California vacation) and then could meet up with us for dinner.
I didn’t know if I was being too presumptuous by assuming that they would be in the area already or interested in driving an hour to meet us for dinner.
Thank you for your responses!
Post # 6
@somerrae: or maybe consider providing transportation? Everybody loves party buses! (I just made that up, IDK whether everybody loves party buses). It turns the commute into an event of its own. For me though, I’d definitely consider it a chore to drive an hour…anywhere…especially if I’m completely unfamiliar with the area. If I knew my presence was expected/requested/required, I’d suck it up and go. But I wouldn’t like it.
Post # 7
@somerrae: I have two problems with this. By having those events on separate days, you’re essentially dictating how guests can spend three days of their trip to San Diego–because they have to make their day-to-day plans around two rehearsal events, not one–especially when you’re adding SD to Temecula and back travel time (I’m guessing it’s Temecula, since you mentioned vineyards). That’s a bit imposing. Expect some complaints.
I know you said you hoped they’d be touring San Diego anyway–but again, you’re making assumptions about how your guests would want to spend their free time on that trip. That’s not really fair. What if they wanted to go wine tasting in Temecula? What if they wanted to go to Disneyland (that’s only 1 hour from Temecula) or the San Diego Wild Animal Park (30 min from Temecula) or somewhere else nearby (Glen Ivy day spa, perhaps)? They may want to do something that is nowhere near San Diego proper, and they probably wouldn’t be able to do that if they knew they had to be downtown San Diego that evening.
My other concern is that it is TOO far for people to drive from the rehearsal dinner…even if it is a different day. You’re expecting guests to rent cars, and spend a lot of extra money on gas as well. You’d probably have some guests who would simply decide not show to the dinner. Plus, since your guests would be staying near the venue, a dinner in San Diego is very inconvenient. That’s a 3 hour roundtrip drive! Don’t do that to your guests. They’ll be so irritated or inconvenienced by the drive that they probably won’t even enjoy the great food that you’re serving them!
I’m sure you could find a fabulous rehearsal dinner locations in Temecula area. It’s not THAT small a town.
Post # 8
I heart San Diego with a passion, and I’ve only spent like 5 days of my life there.
But yeah, I don’t like the idea of three wedding events. Maybe the night before you can invite them to the San Diego place to hang out but not have it as a formal requirement.
Post # 9
So to be clear, my suggestion would be Night 1- rehersal and dinner close to the venue. Night 2- you invite people to meet you in SD if they’d like. Night 3- Awesome Wedding Fun.
Post # 10
@Bubbles42: Yep, I agree that’s the best way to go about it. It just really doesn’t make sense to have the rehersal and rehersal dinner on two different days so far away from each other.
Post # 11
If your rehearsal is 2 days before the wedding, then the corresponding dinner should be the same day. Then you can give your guests the option of joining you and your Fiance the following night.