Should I put number of seats on RSVP?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 17
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12294 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

lunafreya : As I said in the other thread, etiquette disapproves  X of X reserved. It is considered to imply that your guests are rude or too dumb to know how to read an invitation. 

I’m glad you are getting rid of the ages. If people are close enough to invite to the wedding they are close enough that you can pick up the phone to call and ask them or someone who knows. 

For the menu, most caterers are fully capable of taking alternative orders on the day of, but you may have to request it and there may be an upcharge. Speak to them. If at all possible it’s preferable IMO not to have anything menu related in the invitation at all. I realize that some places require this. 

Post # 18
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498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

hafh2016 :  You need to ask for dietary requirements! Who cares if someone says they’re gluten free if they’re not a medically diagnosed coeliac. Any caterer worth their salt will accomodate guests with dietary requirements. 

Post # 19
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157 posts
Blushing bee

Our planner recommended we do the X number of seats on our invites — it seemed a little tacky to me at the time, but in retrospect, I’m glad we did. Honestly, though, I think the people who are going to be pushy about bringing “extras” are going to be pushy no matter. My favorite was the guy who was upset that he couldn’t bring both his sister and his girlfriend (it’s called a plus-one for a reason, dude), whined about having to choose (his choice: he went with the sister??), and then bailed two nights before the wedding via text. Yeah, we’re not friends anymore.

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