Post # 1
So our RSVP’s are coming in and most people have put in the number attending spot 1 or 2. Some maybe 3 or 4 counting their kids. I didn’t put a limit on how many guests people could bring because I assumed if I invited 1 person they’d bring 1 guest. I counted family size and everything so the 3 or 4’s were expected. Well we got a RSVP today from my mom’s friend. I invited her and her husband(that’s who the invite was addressed for) they’re older and have kids but they’re grown and out of their house. They RSVP’d for 6 people! All of their children and their significant others. Then in the notes section asked if their daughter could bring their 2 kids. That’s a total of 8 people! Is it rude to tell them no? Should I have stated on the RSVP’s a limit to the amount of guests people can bring?
Post # 3
If you addressed the invite just to the couple then it is absolutely NOT rude to tell them no! It’s rude of them to invite their entire family. Geez!
Post # 4
they are just taking it too far… i would contact them and say sorry the seats have already been confirmed and you only expected 2 people so they others cant come. thats jus ridiculous for them to want to brring all their kids and their grandkids..
Post # 5
Thanks guys, I just hate awkward situations. I hope they don’t take offense. I knew I wasn’t in the wrong here! =)
Post # 6
Yes, it is rude! But one thing you can do is tell them that you will let them know as the wedding gets closer and more RSVP’s come in; because if you have more than the expected No’s than you could let them bring the kids. If you don’t want to deal with it at all then i would just tell them that you really don’t have room to include that many more people.
Post # 7
This drives me NUTS! Invitations are meant for THE PEOPLE LISTED ON THE INVITATION! Sorry–I know, preaching to the choir. And no, you do not have to state on the invite how many people they can bring. The reason why there is a space is so that if you invite a couple and only one of them can make it, they can let you know–it is NOT RSVP open season.
Have someone besides you cal if you canl–you are the honoree, after all. Your mother, your dad, Future Mother-In-Law, your sister whatever–just someone else because there seems to be a bit more clout when the entire family and not just the couple pulls rank.
Post # 8
The only people who are invited are the people listed on the invite!!!!! This is an open invite for your entire family or all your of their friends! Its not some casual backyard party!! Its a damn wedding!
Post # 9
People are so ballsy with wedding invitations. Someone called my mom to ask why her son wasnt invited. (Becasue I dont acutally know him!?!?) Its crazy.
Put someone else in charge of this… you have too much other stuff to worry about. And stick to your guns! Its your day afterall!