Post # 1
We got married 3 weeks ago and had a small destination wedding with 24 guests. The thank you cards I ordered should be coming in the mail soon and I want to get them out ASAP!
We are obviously sending a thank you card to everyone who attended our wedding. There were some friends and family members who did not attend the wedding but were generous enough to send us gifts – they are also on my list for thank you cards.
There were also some people who sent us cards with well wishes prior to our trip. My question is, do I send a thank you card to people who mailed cards, but did not attend the wedding? It might seem like a silly question, but I want to be sure. Thank you!
Post # 2
uhm i wouldnt i dont think…Thats a tough one though
Post # 3
If the card included a check or monetary gift, then absolutely. For just a card, I would send a text, call, or email along the lines of “Thank you so much for your beautiful card and well wishes. You were very much missed at our celebration!”
Post # 4
mrs2b70 : Thank you! Yes, I was inquiring about people who only sent a card. Anyone who sent a gift – monetary or otherwise – will of course receive a thank you card.
Post # 5
No, I don’t think you need to send a Thank you for someone who only sent a card. If it included gift, then yes, like you said.
Post # 6
No – what would it say? “Thank you for the card?”. It was very nice of them to send well wishes, but anything more than a text like, “got your card – thank you! We’ll miss you at the wedding!” would be too much
Post # 7
Thank you cards to someone who attended or gave you a gift, but I wouldn’t send a thank you to someone who just sent a “congrats” card.
Post # 8
Thank you notes are generally for gifts only, not cards or attendance. Typically no thank you note is appropriate for attendance only, since that can be interpreted as a passive aggressive reminder that one did not receive a gift. But that is assuming a wedding local to the couple or their family. I would make an exception for a destination wedding, which can impose big costs and demands of time on guests.
Post # 9
I lol’ed at the idea that you would “very much miss” anyone who was not at your wedding. Who is that important, on your wedding day?
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
I sent thank you cards to everyone that attended our wedding, or gave us a gift, or sent us a card.