Question about Thank You cards

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
521 posts
Busy bee

uhm i wouldnt i dont think…Thats a tough one though

Post # 3
241 posts
Helper bee

If the card included a check or monetary gift, then absolutely.  For just a card, I would send a text, call, or email along the lines of “Thank you so much for your beautiful card and well wishes. You were very much missed at our celebration!”

Post # 5
2617 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

No, I don’t think you need to send a Thank you for someone who only sent a card.  If it included  gift, then yes, like you said.

Post # 6
1002 posts
Bumble bee

No – what would it say? “Thank you for the card?”. It was very nice of them to send well wishes, but anything more than a text like, “got your card – thank you! We’ll miss you at the wedding!” would be too much

Post # 7
7567 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Thank you cards to someone who attended or gave you a gift, but I wouldn’t send a thank you to someone who just sent a “congrats” card. 

Post # 8
14013 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Thank you notes are generally for gifts only, not cards or attendance. Typically no thank you note is appropriate for attendance only, since that can be interpreted as a passive aggressive reminder that one did not receive a gift. But that is assuming a wedding local to the couple or their family. I would make an exception for a destination wedding, which can impose big costs and demands of time on guests. 

Post # 9
2368 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I lol’ed at the idea that you would “very much miss” anyone who was not at your wedding. Who is that important, on your wedding day?


Post # 10
1889 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I sent thank you cards to everyone that attended our wedding, or gave us a gift, or sent us a card.

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