(Closed) Question about thank yous- long- please read though! :)

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Is the question about combining the wedding/shower thank yous and whether that is tacky?  Honestly I would probably send them separate.  I would do the shower one now and then send the wedding thank you a month later.

Post # 5
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1696 posts
Bumble bee

@cosmocity: Trust me, it will only get worse if you let more time pass. What you need is a plausible excuse. Queue your thank-you notes, so that you are writing the shower notes first, then the wedding gift notes, so that you aren’t writing to the same person back-to-back. Design a scenario that is not-to-unbelievable: I recommend assuming that the process of “setting up” your new marital home (recovering from the wedding-caused disorganization, adapting to moving in together, what ever) has taken up the last five weeks, and you are now setting down happily to arranging your new household goods in your home. That means that you have “just” gotten out your new waffle maker, and “just tried it out for the first time”, and are so pleased and excited about how well it works.

What you are doing here, is cancelling out the intervening five weeks so that, from your perspective, the present is fresh and immediate, and you want to get your thanks out right away. A little experience at method acting would probably help, but in its abxence the motivation of saving face should be adequate dramatic inspiration.

Post # 6
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46333 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t bother making excuses. Everyone knows this is a busy time in your life, but everyone also knows you just put off writing the notes. Just write a genuine, from the heart, thank you note.

Send out the shower thank-you notes, then follow up with the wedding thank-you notes.

Post # 8
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46333 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

See, it’s just like our mothers used to say. It wasn’t as bad as you thought it would be.

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