Post # 1
A few, really.
So for people I know well enough to know they wouldn’t mind I used the “Mr & Mrs.” format label we used on the invites but the note itself is casual “Steve and Lesley, thank you for yada yada -Lauren and Drew” I’m not worried about that.
Older family or more formal members I hand wrote the address. I’m not worried about that either, but I just want opinions I guess.
What I am worried about is since I am SOOOOOOOOOOO late getting shower notes out (shower was March 26th and wedding was April 9th) and the wedding has passed I feel weird sending a thank you for each seperately on the same day. I know I read somewhere you shouldn’t combine, so again in certain cases I did write two but in this situation I feel it isn’t too tacky to combine.
I feel ashamed and embaressed that the shower thank you’s (I only sent them out for the first shower in Feb.) never got out. But I can’t change that so I’d like input on how you would proceed given my circumstances.
Post # 3
Is the question about combining the wedding/shower thank yous and whether that is tacky? Honestly I would probably send them separate. I would do the shower one now and then send the wedding thank you a month later.
Post # 4
Oh for crap sake…
I can’t believe I didn’t think of that!!!!!!!
LOL! Wow, you’re a genious. I feel stupid :p
That is exactly what I will do. Makes much more sense.
Post # 5
@cosmocity: Trust me, it will only get worse if you let more time pass. What you need is a plausible excuse. Queue your thank-you notes, so that you are writing the shower notes first, then the wedding gift notes, so that you aren’t writing to the same person back-to-back. Design a scenario that is not-to-unbelievable: I recommend assuming that the process of “setting up” your new marital home (recovering from the wedding-caused disorganization, adapting to moving in together, what ever) has taken up the last five weeks, and you are now setting down happily to arranging your new household goods in your home. That means that you have “just” gotten out your new waffle maker, and “just tried it out for the first time”, and are so pleased and excited about how well it works.
What you are doing here, is cancelling out the intervening five weeks so that, from your perspective, the present is fresh and immediate, and you want to get your thanks out right away. A little experience at method acting would probably help, but in its abxence the motivation of saving face should be adequate dramatic inspiration.
Post # 6
Don’t bother making excuses. Everyone knows this is a busy time in your life, but everyone also knows you just put off writing the notes. Just write a genuine, from the heart, thank you note.
Send out the shower thank-you notes, then follow up with the wedding thank-you notes.
Post # 7
@julies1949:Don’t bother making excuses. Everyone knows this is a busy time in your life, but everyone also knows you just put off writing the notes.
LOL! This is so true and great advice! Everyone does know we are house hunting plus we had a 2 week honeymoon. That and the shower was only 2 weeks before the wedding so everything kind of…
Yeah, I just didn’t do them. lol
I just finished all of the Shower thank yous though 🙂 Some simply say “Thank you for X,Y,Z that you gave at the shower” (or something similar, it’s already a blur) and then a generic “I look forward to using them once we move” or “it’s proven itself handy!” if I haven’t used it. If I have used it then I said so.
Some may not be perfect but they were all sincere.
All the shower notes are written and addressed and will go out Monday – YAYYY
I’ve started the wedding ones and plan to mail those out no later than June 4th (2 weeks)
Post # 8
See, it’s just like our mothers used to say. It wasn’t as bad as you thought it would be.