(Closed) Question about the actual wedding part

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Gingersnap: O just have a aquesiton for you. If you don’t have an officiant who will officiate for you? You need someone to perform the ceremony, even if you get married at the courthouse…..the JOP does it.

Post # 4
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3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Legally you have to have someone who is ordained in the county and state that you’re getting married in. For example, we’re having a family friend go down to the county recorder’s office and get a ‘1 day pass’ to marry us on the specific day we say. 

That’s the least expensive route. If you go with a church, normally you just need to make a donation to the church. If you go with a local officiant, it can be pretty expensive…

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Gingersnap: oooohh ours was my cousin. You don’t necessarily have to hire one. It just needs to be someone legalized to marry you. So, yes you need both.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Gingersnap: yes…unfortunately. Fiance and I are so flustered with the legal shizz incorporated with getting married. 

So you have to have an ordained person and the license to get legally married…

Post # 9
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3982 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Gingersnap: Yes. They have to be legal to marry through the state AND a marriage license.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Gingersnap: It’s really great. This way you can write your own ceremony (or cut/paste until it’s personalized to your taste) and write your own vows. Very personal and special 🙂

Post # 12
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244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s also really easy to get ordained online. My brother did it when he was 18. You will need whoever officiates to sign the marriage certificate, as well as two witnesses (usually your Maid of Honor and Best Man). I beleive you will also have to sign the certificate. Then, it needs to be sent in to the correct office (you’ll want to find out which one before hand). The best way to go is to have a stamped envelope all ready to go and to slip it in a mailbox ASAP. After it’s processed, the courthouse will send you a certificate of marriage (it’s not the liscense) and that is what you’ll need multiple copies of if you want to change your name, etc. Plus, you’ll need to find out the time window on your liscense, it’s different in every state but usually between 30 and 60 days, and how much it will cost, usually around $50, and you and your fiance will both have to go to the courthouse to apply for it, in person. You should be able to find all of the information you need on your state or county web page!!

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Gingersnap: It varies by state, but in most states, the officiant has to sign your license. And they have to be ordained/licensed in the state to do that. You may want to check with your state to see what the requirements are!

We had a friend perform the ceremony, but a family member who is an ordained minister signed the license for us.

ETA: Yep, @cbee – I forgot witnesses. Most states require those too. 🙂

Post # 14
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7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

In WI you have to apply for the license, and then wait 5-7 days, and then have someone perform the ceremony within 30 days.  That officiant makes it official when they sign the license with the two witnesses.

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