Post # 1
So I have what is very likely a silly question. However, being a very lapsed Catholic, I feel too embarassed to ask our priest since it’s something I really should already know. However, I know my fellow bees will help me out. 🙂 I know that the mothers usually bring up the gifts. However, I have no idea where the bread and wine comes from and how it’s prepared. Unfortunately, I never paid attention to this during my childhood when I was at all those masses. Thank you for answering such a basic question!
Post # 3
@seachange: I haven’t been to a catholic wedding in a long time and didn’t pay much attention because I wasn’t catholic then. But at Sunday mass in my church the bread and wine are brought up from the back of church by the guys that take the collection. I figure this will be the same at our wedding (except for the guys taking collection). Our Maid/Matron of Honor and best man are bringing up our gifts. This was one of the options for presenters in the Together for Life book given to us by the church. The gifts are prepared by the priest. I hope that helps.
Post # 4
Anyone who you can choose can bring up the gifts. (They should probably be Catholic, I dont know if that will be enforced.) They are prepared in advance by the priest or the sacristan or the marriage coordinator – you dont have to worry about it. At your wedding rehearsal whoever brings up the gifts should find out where and when and how to go do it.
Post # 5
I don’t believe the gift presenters need to be catholic as the bread and wine are not the blood and body at that point. That is what I was told when I was deciding on who to pick. My Maid/Matron of Honor is not catholic but the best man is and my church doesn’t have a problem with it. But each church may be different.
Post # 6
In our wedding, the gift bearers did not have to be Catholic– my cousin (Catholic) and my brother-in-law (Episcopalian) brought them forward. They sit on a stand or table, almost like a podium (I’m sure that it has a proper name) at the back of the church- we pass them when we come in for Mass.
Post # 7
For our mass it is on a table at the back of the church and the ppl you chose to carry the gifts just take them and walk up with them (the church will tell you how to hold it and who walks where) then you give them to the priest. They will be prayed over and blessed by the priest on the altar and then there is communion. Nothing for you to worry about. Usually its a little jug with wine in it and a gold mini chest thing that the bread goes in. The prayers and blessings are the preparation.