Post # 1
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21 posts
Newbee
Hello all, I’m new on WB. For a little background about myself you can check out my previous (long) post about SO and I.
I have heard about The Shut-It-Up Pact. With that said, do you have to be close or near the “end” of your waiting as a bee to join the Shut-It-Up Pact? For example, you are very sure that your SO/FI is going to propose within the next few weeks or months, so you are allowed to participate in the Pact. However, for me, I won’t be proposed to until the next 1.5 years. Can I still participate?
The reason why I’m asking a dumb question is because I really want to try my hardest not to speak about proposals/rings/engagement because I don’t want to be a nag and don’t want to pressure him (Even though we already have established a timeline).
Every single damn day I mention something about rings, or I’ll slip about wedding plans. I don’t wanna do that to him. And lol, I think he is starting to get oh I dunno, tense? Poor guy. Sometimes he’ll grab his stomach and say something cute like “I have butterflies in my stomach babe!” LOL. I just need some more self-control! I love him to death and I know he loves me (he says he loves me so much, that he’ll even take a bullet for me no questions asked”)
Please help!!!!! LOL 🙁 I don’t want this waiting to consume me or him! Sooooo, can I join??? 😀
Post # 3
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175 posts
Blushing bee
@SoonToBeMrsLBee: Im pretty sure its for all us waiting Bee’s, no matter how long the expected wait. I have the same problem with daily (or more) slip ups. SO is very understanding, but i know its propbely not something that he needs to hear constantly.
Post # 4
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21 posts
Newbee
@Bookaholic: Ohhh ok! Cause if that’s the case, I’m soooo in! And exactly. When I do slip up, he’ll understand and sometimes even will talk about it openly, it’s just that I don’t think he would want to hear about it every single day!
Post # 5
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662 posts
Busy bee
The Shut It Up Pact is for ALL waiting bees!! You are more than welcome to join it! For me the Shut It Up Pact was really useful for me not just as a constant reminder to not nag or bring it up, but also as a great support outlet for those times that I do slip up. The ladies on the Pact are amazing and made my waiting time so much easier!
Post # 6
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21 posts
Newbee
@Bunny82: Thank you!!! Sounds awesome to me! 🙂 I will be joining the next one for sure!
Post # 7
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245 posts
Helper bee
@SoonToBeMrsLBee: You should join us now! The ladies are wonderful. The more the merrier, right? Current Shut It Pact > link.
Post # 8
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463 posts
Helper bee
I think the pact is awesome. I was waiting for 2.5 years and keeping my mouth shut was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. (towards the end I was out of my mind basically) I thought that eventually he would propose just to shut me up, but he did it on his terms, on his own time. And I’m grateful. We’ve been through so much since the “waiting” period started that both of us are 100% sure we are it. I wish that I’d been able to talk about it with someone else during that time!!
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