(Closed) Question about the wedding party in Catholic ceremony

posted 9 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had a Catholic ceremony and there was no mention of our Best Man and Maid of Honor’s faith/denomination, let alone details about their personal lives.  Check with your church to be sure, but I can’t imagine there’d be a problem.  They are basically just signing the certificate as a witness.  I think anyone could sign it, it is just traditionally the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor since they are right there.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum

Nobody but our priest signed our marriage certificate.  Is he Catholic?  We were required to have a Catholic best man and maid of honor. 

Post # 6
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636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’d just call and ask the parish secretary if they have any rules about the religion of the wedding party.  I wouldn’t open a can of worms by mentioning the divorce.  Also, if you are not Catholic and are still getting married in the church, I couldn’t imagine them having a problem with the Best Man. All churches are different though, so I guess you never know unless you ask!  Hope it all works out for you!

Post # 7
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898 posts
Busy bee

Just ask if there are any special requirements, but don’t mention the divorce. I was Maid/Matron of Honor in a Catholic ceremony, and I’m not Catholic. They let me sign the certificate, no questions asked. And I know Best Man wasn’t Catholic either. We’re just witnesses, so it didn’t really matter.

Post # 9
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735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

The signatures are usually on a legal document, your marriage licence, not the a church document.

We didn’t have a problem and out Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man were FAR from catholic

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I agree with what’s been said.  Our Bridesmaid or Best Man was not Catholic, and we had no problems.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Our Bridesmaid or Best Man isn’t Catholic and there were no issues at all.

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

No, I don’t think there would be any problems with signing the certificate.  I would think the only issue would be making sure that the bridal party knows that reception of communion is reserved to Catholics in a state of grace.   I would assume that the priest would inform them at the rehersal though. 

Post # 14
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

On a related topic, I’m having a traditional High Latin Mass for my wedding. I found out the other day that I need to find 5 altar servers trained in the traditional rite:  1 MC (I’m thinking that means Master of Ceremonies), two accolytes, one thunifer (holds and swings the thing containing incense) and one cross bearer. I also need to make sure we can get the cassock and surplus which is what the altar servers wear.

In the old rite it took a year’s worth of training to be an altar server.  Thankfully my parish used to have a traditional latin mass (not too long ago) so I’m looking to ask the parishioners who used to attend that Mass if they know who was assisting at our Mass before.  I also have a friend who only attends the traditional Mass and said she’d help.

I’m also looking for a schola to do Gregorian chant.  I just emailed a director of music ministry who heads a schola and got an email back just a couple hours later saying he may be able to help.  If there is a good male voice, one of them may be able to chant the Epistle, though our priest said he’d chant it if not.

Things seem to be going together.  I hope all comes together to make a beautiful service, else my fiance’ is pretty insistant he wants a Low Mass which means a Latin Mass with no music.

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