Post # 1
So here’s the scoop on me – I’m 38. Been on birth control pills for about 18 years consistently. No history of any reproductive issues, but my periods were slightly irregular (28 – 38 day cylces)back before I started the pill. Fiance is 36.
Our wedding is August 12 and we want to work on the baby thing immediately.
I start my last pack of pills this Sunday, which means I’ll be off the BCP in mid-April, 4 months before my wedding.
Here’s my question – what do I do??? Do I just go about life and see what happens (if I get pregnant before the wedding it won’t be a big deal)? Do I make sure to use some other method of prevention between now and the wedding? Or do I extend my BCP prescription and wait to go off of them until after the wedding?
I guess I’m just nervous of how long it will take us to get pregnant so I feel like I should get working on that as it may take a long time. Yet, I know lots of peple IRL and here on the bee who got their BFP immediately after stopping BCP.
So experienced ladies – what would you recommend?
Post # 3
If it isn’t a big deal if you are pregnant at the wedding, I vote start now and hope you have one more tiny reason (and potentially an awesome announcement at the wedding) to celebrate. Many people have said their most fertile time was right after stopping BCP, so take advantage of it!
Post # 4
@Glasgowbound: If you are saying that it’s not a big deal if you get your BFP before the wedding then I would say stay off the pill and see what happens. GL and FX
Post # 5
I would suggest going off the pill now and allow yourself time to prepare your body for pregnancy. As a long time TTCer I know sometimes it can take longer then you expect so I think it is best to start preparing in advance.
Post # 6
Since it’s okay for you guys if you do get your BFP before the wedding, I vote to start trying now. Have you thought about charting at all?
Post # 7
@RoyalLime: Yes, I’ve thought about charting and OPK’s, just not sure which to do (or do both). I get up stupidly early for work (5:45am) and then later on the weekends/holidays/summer (I’m a teacher) and I know that can cause problems with charting since you are taking your temp at different times on different days. So I’m not sure what to do 🙂 My doctor suggested OPK’s and said that after 3 months if I haven’t gotten my period or haven’t ovulated that he will put me on drugs – not clomid, it was something else.
Post # 8
@Glasgowbound: You can still chart with a schedule like that. I temp at the earliest time I would ever wake 6:30 and take it EVERY day at that time. Do I get out of bed after temping on weekends? HECK NO! lol My phone alarm goes off, I grab it from under my pillow along with my therm. and then go back to sleep after it’s done beeping 🙂 Just a thought 🙂
Post # 9
I think it depends on whether you would be ok with being pregnant for the wedding or not. Yes, it can definitely take a while to get pregnant, and it’s good that you know and are prepared for that. But some people find that they have heightened fertility for a month or so right after coming off the pill, so your chances of it happening immediately might be higher than you think.
Post # 10
I guess I wouldn’t be concerned about being pregnant before you’re married, but if you period doesn’t become regular by the time your wedding comes–how much of an inconvenience is that going to be to you?
For me, I want to start ttc soon, but I’m afraid if I go off the pill my acne will flare up and I will have irregular periods for a few months and ruin some of the important days I have coming up this summer.
Post # 11
I’m not trying to be rude but I don’t know what the delicate way of putting this is. 38 is pretty late to start trying and 18 years is a long time to be on BCPs. I would get off the pills ASAP, start temping, charting, become familiar with what your cycles are like right now, start talking with your doctor.
My own mom was 36 when she got pregnant with my youngest sister (her fourth) and she had some major difficulties in pregnancy she and dad said she didn’t have before. Things like bleeding and having to go back to the hospital after coming home, severe post partum which turned into hospitalized depression, 100+ lb weight gain that stuck around for years. My friend who is a nurse was telling me just yesterday that she actually sees a lot of older women having children and how worrisome those deliveries can be. I’m saying this because I think it’s a real priority to make things as easy for you as possible. I’d get started now.
Post # 12
@megz06: I thankfully have never had any “isssues” for lack of a better term while on my period. Acne doesn’t flare up, no massive mood swings, no bloating etc. So yes, it would be annoying to be dealing with AF during the wedding/honeymoon, it would really only interfere with the wedding night sex plan.
@GreenDream: I didn’t really have a choice in it, so it’s the boat I’m in 🙂 I also know just as many people who were my age and older who got their BFP within a month or two and had no issues and just as many early 20 somethings who had issues when TTC. FI’s mom was 41 when she had him and all was good.
It’s just frustrating that you don’t know until you try. I can’t know if it will be quick or hard for me until we start officially TTC.
Post # 13
I personally would start now and take the chances that you may be pregnant at the wedding. Generally speaking, it takes a woman (younger than you, no offense) about 4-6 months, on average, to conceive. Even if you did conceive about a month or two prior, you shouldn’t be affected enough physically to have issues with fitting into your dress.
As you probably know, women over 35 have a more challenging time when TTC. As such, I think having the extra time by starting earlier is likely to your benefit. Here are some tips from the American Pregnancy Association to increase your chances. http://americanpregnancy.org/gettingpregnant/ttc35.html
Post # 14
Personally, I’d use another form of birth control until the wedding. I wouldn’t want to potentially be pregnant over my wedding and honeymoon and be dealing with morning sickness and unable to enjoy a celebratory drink and such.
If you get off the pill now, the next 4 months would give your body time to regulate itself after the 18 years you’ve spent on the pill. You could even start temping/charting so that you’ll already know your cycle by the wedding and can start ASAP then.
Post # 15
definitely start charting when you end your BC. it really helps you get to know your cycles. i also use OPK’s. i had the mirena until january so i’ve only been charting 2 cycles but it’s been so helpful so far. to be honest, i don’t temp at the same time everyday. it’s usually around the same time (between 5am-6am) and it hasn’t messed up my chart pattern. if you want to use OPK’s, get them from amazon. you can get a pack of 50 for $15-$20.
Post # 16
Would you be okay with being pregnant on your wedding day? If the answer is yes than I don’t see why not start TTC now. However, I’m assuming that you polled because you want to know what each of us would do if in your situation. In my case I would probably get off BC, start tracking my period (and taking prenatals) and use some other form of protection not involving hormones. Goodluck, this year sounds like it’ll be a fabulous one!