Post # 1
My friend is getting married in less than two months. My SO and I were originally going to give money as a gift but then decided to get something off her registry. I was not invited to her bridal shower and a few of the more expensive items were getting bought so I bought her gift now and sent it to her house. The response she gave me makes me think she thinks I got her a bridal shower gift. No, this is your WEDDING gift! When we come to the wedding with just a congratulatory card do we write anything in it? Like, congratulations on your marriage hope you enjoy your _____ for years to come?? Anything rubs her the wrong way and I can see her telling people,”oh, so and so didn’t even get us a gift!!” I guess I really shouldn’t care because that’s who she is but I don’t want her to think we ate and drank her wedding up and didn’t get her anything!
Post # 3
Yes, you can mention it in their wedding card.
I too was confused by some gifts that arrived around the same time as my shower or engagement. Were they wedding gifts, shower gifts or engagement gifts? I had no clue.
Post # 4
I second the “mention it in your wedding card” 🙂
PS – the best cards that we received had messages, stories and notes in them… not just names.
Post # 5
Just mention it in the wedding card. Or you could get a small complimentary gift to bring to the wedding if you really didn’t want to show up empty handed. Like if it was a mixer, a cookbook. Then write in the front of it congrats and hope you’re able to use this and the mixer to cook for your family for years to come.
I wouldn’t think anyone would send me a shower gift who wasn’t invited to it, but I guess some people think that highly of themselves. 🙂
Post # 6
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with mentioning the gift in your card 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I would put the note in the card– sometimes it’s hard to tell with the gifts that arrive early; give her the benefit of the doubt, and politely mention that it was meant as a wedding gift. If she isn’t graceful enough to accept the gift as it was intended, that’s her problem– not yours.