(Closed) question about who should walk me down the aisle

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2701 posts
Sugar bee

Considering your lack of appropriate father figures, I would 100% say ask your mother and your mother only to walk you down the aisle. I am very sorry to hear of your situation and I hope that things work out beautifully for you.

Post # 5
53 posts
Worker bee


@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: this exactly!!  I grew up with both my parents until I was about 14 then I father entered into a relationship with a woman who makes his life miserable if he does anything that involves hs past life. I’m 38 now. He allows it. We were super close & know I haven’t seen him in about 9 years. I’ll invite him but I’m having my mom walk me down too. 

I think sometimes you have to look at why we do the traditional things not the details. : ) 

Post # 6
2759 posts
Sugar bee

It’s absolutely fair. My mom is walking me down. It’s one of those things where there is no “appropriate” – do whatever is the best for you and what you want. If you want to walk down alone, great. If you did want both parents or maybe a cousin or even a good friend, great! I would suggest that you stand firm against your stepfather, though, with that kind of history. It’s not fair for anyone to expect you to make someone who you had such a terrible relationship with be that big a part of your special day.

Post # 7
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think having your mom walk with you is a great idea! I’m sure she would appreciate it too ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

For sure sounds appropriate and right. I don’t consider it “inappropriate” in any situation.

I wanted my mom to, but she said she felt awkward about it for some reason. So I let it go and we formulated a new plan. All I knew is that my Dad wasn’t going to do it. I used to say my brothers would walk me down the aisle but Fiance chose them to be two of his groomsmen so we came up with another idea.Fiance and I are walking down the aisle together, as an option in case your mother does not agree with you.

Post # 9
193 posts
Blushing bee

I am in the exact same boat. My stepdad my my life hell, even kicked me out when I was 14. Though now I get along with him better than ever. However I feel that the only person that has a right to walk me down the ailse, the one that has always been there was my mother.

Good luck, its a hard choice but when I asked mum she was so moved.

Post # 10
11356 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I have two very close friends whose fathers died long before their weddings.  One asked her older brother to walk her down the aisle.  The other asked her mother.  Both weddings were beautiful, and the processions were very touching.

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