(Closed) Question Bees…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I wouldn’t include him. My grandmother wasn’t able to make it, so I just listed my grandfather. I didn’t want people to see her name and wonder where she was or if something had happened. I thought it just made the most sense to list the people who were present than to have some sort of a mystery. That being said, there’s a lot that could change (without knowing the story) between now and May, so I wouldn’t rush to print your programs just yet.

Post # 4
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

tough question. it all depends on so many things…..

I feel like i would have to know the reason for not speaking and if you for see you and your dad speaking again…

Post # 5
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m in a somewhat similar situation. I haven’t had a close relationship with my mother for 15 + years. I will be inviting her to the wedding, not sure if she will be able to attend, but I feel that based on our strained relationship, she does not deserve the honor of being listed as Mother of the Bride. In my eyes, she is just an invited guest.

If you feel that it is important to acknowledge him in some way, I think the simplest way would be in the program. However, if he’s not invited, then I do not think it’s necessary.

Post # 6
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Honestly, if you think there’s a chance you two will reconnect, I would go ahead and add him. I don’t know what’s happened, though. If it feels wrong to you to include him, then certainly don’t. I think this is something only you will know the answer to.

Post # 7
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

IF you think you two might reconcile down the track i would include him and if people ask you respond that he couldnt make it – afterall if you can reconcile then not including him might make the issues bigger by hurt feelings

if you think the relationship is damaged beyond repair then i would exclude im

tough call for you


Post # 10
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow with your history, I wouldn’t include him on your program or invite him either!  I wouldn’t want someone there who only wanted to be involved in your life when it was good for him.

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