Post # 1
Hi everyone… You’d figure after being a wedding photog I’d know some etiquette but I don’t because I don’t get invited to a lot of weddings as a guest, so I’m asking the hive!
– Wedding is in March, 2010. When the groom got engaged he let me know within days to expect an invitation as a guest – and not as a photographer for once in my life! I just got the save the date yesterday
– The groom is someone I’d been keeping in touch with and we were friends in college. Not terribly close friends, he is 3 years older but due to personality clicking I was particularly close with him and his roommates and we’ve kept in touch every year at least once. Assuming that his roommates will be there at the wedding, I will know enough people to have a pretty good time
– Wedding is in Cali. I’m in Boston. My bf already said he didn’t want to go because of costs and it’s too far. If I go alone, I absolutely have to make sure the other classmates are there or else I wouldn’t know anyone at the wedding but the groom himself
– Is it better for me not to go and just send a gift? I understand that guests do cost money (reception-wise) and I’m not best buddies with the groom and won’t know a lot of people at the wedding.
Any responses would be appreciated. thanks!
Post # 3
Consider your relationship with the groom and any other friends who might be there. I’ve had a good time at weddings alone before even when I wasn’t incredibly close with the other guests. I had a good time meeting the couple’s other friends because they were “good people” — you know, friends of friends and all have similar interests or personalities. Then again, it’s gone the opposite way too.
Another option is paying or helping to pay for your Boyfriend or Best Friend to go. Whenever I’ve been a +1 at a wedding my SO wanted to attend, he paid for my travel costs. That’s between you two, but I’d suggest considering it.
Post # 4
It sounds to me like you’d really LIKE to go…so I would consider taking mary-alice-me’s advice and offering to help with bf’s expenses so that you could both go. I’ve had tons of fun at weddings of people that I wasn’t the closest to anymore…it was great catching up with old friends!
And it could be a little mini-vacation for the two of you???
Post # 5
I think it would be fun if you went! Even if you did go alone. You might see old college friends that you can reconnect with and you don’t have to play babysitter to the Boyfriend or Best Friend while youre chattin away!
This can also be an opportunity to network…you said your a wedding photog, and when people ask what you do (cause I know they will) maybe you can meet a future client (start doing destination wedding or something) you never know!!
Post # 6
If you really want to go, you should go…plain and simple!
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! Yeah, I want to go, bf also actually doesn’t have the time, so I think I’ll figure everything out when things get closer to the date.