(Closed) Question for already married bees…

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
6 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

* Make sure you give your photographer very specific instructions on the types of shots you would like to have, including showing examples, and have a good discussion about it, so that you know you are both on the same page. Let them know about what your expectations are in terms of how many photos you would like to receive, and know clearly what is included in your package.

* Delegate: get as many hands on deck to help you as you can.

* Have some herbal ‘sleeping tabs’ like Blackmores on hand for the night before, so that you can relax enough to get bit of sleep, so you dont look tired the next day.

* Make sure you clarify with your venue whether there will be any other weddings there on the same day as yours – we had our venue spring it on us on the day, and it was very uncomfortable to have to walk through the middle of the other (outdoor) wedding to get to where we were booked to have lunch. The other bride looked very uncomfortable as well. Plus guests from the other wedding kept coming in to our lucheon to try to get beverages. Just wrong.


Post # 4
1550 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

**I can second everything the person before me said, except for the sleeping tabs thing. I had no trouble sleeping.

**I think that you should just make sure everything is taken care of in terms of notes and lists. don’t be afraid to delegate, and when you do, you need to be overly clear with those people. Make lists, dozens of them, draw diagrams, take pictures, do whatever you need to do so that it is perfectly clear for those who are helping you with your day.

**Make a conscious effort to mingle with your guests at your reception and thank them for coming. Try to get to all of them. Time flies by SOOOO fast. before we knew it, we were leaving our reception and it felt like we had not even greeted half of our guests.

**Have someone practice doing up/undoing your bustle BEFORE your wedding. You don’t want to spend 30 minutes  of your reception in the bathroom with a mother who has no idea what she is doing.

**make sure your photographer or anyone else who is taking pictures gets lots of pictures of the guests dancing/having fun at reception. Our photographer missed this and we literally don’t have a single picture of our guests.


Post # 6
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

one of my bridesmaids bought me a bridal emergency kit. It contained EVERYTHING you need: deodorant, mint, seewing kit, tampon, hairbursh, etc.

I ended up needing it because the clasp on the back of my dress fell off. It was pretty dramatic. We ended up cutting a clasp off of my moms bra and sewed it in. So make sure you have that sewing kit!! lol

Make a timeline for the whole day and give it to parents, aunts, uncles, etc. You will also feel more comfortable knowing everything will fall into place. The day of was so relaxing and fun for me because everything was so organized.

Make sure to take it all in. The day will fly. Don’t fret the little details. No one will notice what went wrong except you.

Post # 7
7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

RELAX. Seriously, let everyone else take care of everything for you. Don’t stress, don’t worry, don’t hurry around trying to get everything done… just relax and enjoy. Things will fall into place without you doing it all yourself.

Post # 8
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Make sure you eat and stay hydrated!  The whole night passed and we realized all we had was one drink the entire afternoon and evening (though we did eat, thank goodness!). 

And like zippylef said, please relax :-).  I did not for about half the day, stressing out about all the little details getting done, but everyone was so helpful that it worked out in the end and I could of just enjoyed the day a little more! 

Post # 9
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Relax and take it all in.  Don’t forget to let people help you!  Our wedding was the best day of our lives, but it just went by so quickly.  Keep breathing, drink lots of water and oh yeah, eat a banana to help with the nerves! (I’m the banana lady…they call me.)

Post # 10
4824 posts
Honey bee

Your relationships with people should last way longer than the wedding planning and the wedding. Dont let planning ruin relationships. We all know its a day about you and your fiance, but dont forget your parents are proud of you and may or may not want to be involved. Same with friends.

Be conscious how much you ask of them/talk to them about planning and include those who want to be included.

Emotions run high around a wedding. Yours and others. If there is a conflict or people start appearing to act strange, talk it out and don’t ignore or automatically assume “they are jealous, they dont care, they are immature, etc”. You may very well be acting strange in their eyes.

Things seem way more important when planning then they actually are. When its all you think about and research and talk about (with the Bee or otherwise) its easy to lose perspective.

Post # 12
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

– Try not to stress a lot and enjoy your day to the fullest cuz the little things really don’t matter in the end.

– Be sure to ask for help when you need it.

– Create a wedding day emergency kit comprised of every possible thing you can think of that might be needed to be prepared for any mishaps.

– Don’t forget Dr Scholls inserts for your wedding shoes or a pair of flats for when your feet hurt.

– Be sure to eat a big breakfast and lunch before your wedding so you aren’t too hungry during the ceremony.

– Don’t hire friends to work your wedding (as in for DJs or Photographers). It may seem like a good way to save money, but it usually doesn’t work out well. I know from experience.

– Do a lot of research before making any final decisions.

– Listen to opinions of others, but remember that it’s your wedding and decide what you and your Fiance want to do most of all and go with that (even if it might hurt some people’s feelings). You can’t always please everyone and your happiness is most important.

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