(Closed) Question for bees with gaps in their rings…

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
2837 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I have a gap, and it was unavoidable unless I wanted a custom ring, which I think is a little much for my ering. I’ve been wearing them for about 6 months now, and they play together very nicely. The rings sit together on my palm side, and sort of diverge on the top. Being together on my palm keeps them immobilized; they don’t shift around as much as you’d think they would. I think you’ll be ok.

Post # 4
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Mrs.Lotus:  I’m not sure, but I think the scratching of the rings would only be a problem if they were different metals (ie platinum scratching gold)?  I have a gap, but I’m not married yet so I don’t know about my rings scratching or not…

Post # 5
694 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I have no problem with scratching.

Post # 7
2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

yes, rings will wear on each other over time– even if there is no gap.  you should probably think about soldering them together if you want them to last longer. 

my mom’s e-ring is so worn down that it’s on the verge of breaking. she can’t wear it now. I don’t know how long that took to wear down like that, but I would guess 20 years. 

so many people seem to think soldering is permanent or somehow ruins the ring. I can tell you that it does not. ask your jeweler. it’s usually only about $30 to do it (unless they have to do something special if your ring design is unusual), and can be easily reversed.

Post # 8
1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

With your style of ring, it’s not a huge concern.  Gold of the same karat rubbing will wear down a little over time, but it’s nothing that an annual inspection couldn’t catch.  The bigger concern is for rings with pave on the sides, because a diamond rubbing on gold is quite destructive.

Post # 9
50 posts
Worker bee

It’s normal.  I have a similar situation but I have

Chosen to keep them separate because I like

Having the versatility of wearing the rings together

Or separately.  Try wearing them for a while


I sometimes think it’s best to get the set together so

There are no gaps.  Maybe in 3 more years 

We’ll do thadote our 10th wedding anniversary.  

Post # 10
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve heard the bigger problem is the rubbing causing side stones to get loose, but it doesn’t look like you’ll have that issue. I’ve also noticed that the little scratches that occur on the bottom of my ring buff out when I take it to get checked/serviced, so I’d guess it would be the same for any scratching that occurs as a result of your rings touching like that. But I do not yet have a wedding band, so reading this thread is helping me too. 🙂

Post # 11
1415 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Different metals wear differently, but yes, over time any rings rubbing together will wear.  Gold wears away, meaning that the metal molecules are lost as the gold rubs, whereas platinum/palladium just wear part, meaning that the metal molecules move as the metal rubs, but you never lose mass in the ring.

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