Post # 1
After much deliberation, I decided to stick with my maiden name and not take my FH’s last name.
However, this leaves a problem for wording: You know how the officiant normally says, “And I present to you Mr. and Mrs. ______?” What are you having said instead? It seems kind of awkward to just say “I now present to you…” and say our names as they haven’t changed. lol
Post # 4
You do make a really good point, I think it would be nice to say something like “I now present to you The Newlyweds” or “The new husband and wife.” Something along those lines that doesn’t have to mention your names.
Post # 5
I doubt we’re going to do an announcement, but I’ve heard couples announced as “For the first time as husband and wife, Bride HerLast and Groom HisLast.” You can also just do first names. If we do do an announcement, it’ll be something like that.
Post # 6
“I now present to you Jack & Sue as a married couple”
no one will notice the wording. That is the same time they will be clapping, smiling, and crying since you just kissed. Although it may be nice for the officiant to annouce each of your names since you are not taking his last name.
I had this same delimma with the name change. I am making my maiden name my middle name and taking my fiance’s last name. In the end, I feel it is important to share a last name but I didnt feel right not having my maiden name at all… that essentially means I was born his wife, which I was not! Im also a bit of a feminist 😛 He offered to take my last name, but he has the better name (mine is hard to spell and people get confused all the time)
Post # 7
We are doing something like, “Now introducing the newleyweds, myfirst and hisfirst!!”
Or “For the first time as husband and wife, hisfirst and myfirst!”
Post # 8
I kept my maiden name and just asked the pastor and DJ to use our first names. The pastor was a friend, so it was a seamless presentation: It’s my honor to present, for the first time as husband and wife: hisfirstname, myfirstname.
The DJ started saying: mr and mrs.. and at one point, he just left it as that – and another time he just added our first names at the end.
ETA: if you like the usage of mr and mrs – you could always have it announced as: Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirst & last name – since, that’s technically who you are (Mrs. his first / last name and Ms. Your first / Maiden name)
Post # 9
I’m keeping my maiden name for a number of reasons, but understand that people will forever call me Mrs HisLastName anyway. I’ve just accepted that in family and social circles, there will always be that overlap, and I’m okay with it. That being the case, I’m okay with being announced as Mr and Mrs HisLastName. It was something he wanted and with me getting to pick 99% of what is going on that day, I didn’t mind making that consession for him.
If you’re really against that, go with “…it’s now my pleasure to introduce to you, joe and jane, as a married couple…”
Post # 10
We’re having our reception immediately follow, so we’re not having a real recessional, the ‘catholic gap,’ being ‘introduced’ at the reception or having a receiving line. So the end of our ceremony goes like this (direct from the package whoo!)
“..I, ________by the virtue of the powers vested in me by the marriage act, do hereby pronounce you (name) and (name) to be husband & wife.
[this is where we will mack in front of our grandmas]
“May you enjoy the length of days, fulfillment of hopes and peace and contentment of mind as you day by day fulfill covenant you have made with each other.”
Then yeah, we’re debating whether we have our officiant say “may I introduce the married couple” (but not saying Mr.& Mrs. Hislastname) or scream “group hug!” haha.
I think going with something along the lines of the ‘newlyweds’ would neatly avoid the name conundrum. I use my maiden name for my copyright, so I am not inclined to change it, but fully expect everyone under the sun to call me Mrs. A rather than Ms. B.
Post # 11
Our officiant said, “And now it gives me great pleasure to present, for the first time as husband and wife, [First Name] and [First Name]!
Post # 12
If you don’t ever want to be referred to as Mrs. then just go with first names, but technically you are Mrs. hislastname, so that’s ok if you are comfortable with it.
Post # 13
I elect to politely disagree with you.
It’s a matter of the OP keeping her maiden name, which doesn’t technically make her a Mrs.
Mrs. = Mr’s (apostrophes denote ownership..) Ms. is the technical and proper title for a woman who keeps her maiden name who is married. 🙂
OP: I definitely think you shouldjust stick with first names to avoid confusion or being uncomfortable etc.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Our officiant said “I am thrilled to announce, as husband and wife, Hisname and Myname!”
Post # 15
We are being presented as “For the first time as husband and wife, HisFirst and MyFirst”
Post # 16
I’m pretty sure I’ll be keeping my last name, but I don’t have any issue with being called Mrs. His first name, his last name. I am his Mrs. Even if I go by my own name at work.