Post # 1
Let me just start off by saying that I myself am not what you would consider conservative but one of my BM’s is. My bachelorette party is this weekend and I am SO excited. My friends and I all like to go out and drink and just have a good time…we are not partiers by any means but we do like to get a bit tipsy and party a bit (definitely not a vegas type of girl though haha). I’m the type of person who is always concerned about others before myself and with one of my BM’s being on the more conservative side I worry about her and what she will think of me if she see’s me a little drunk. She is family so we’ve never had a real ‘night out’ together. If you were in this situation would you think differently or poorly of a friend / close family member is she got a little tipsy around you? I feel like I’m being so irrational here but I just can’t help but be nervous!!
Post # 2
If she is going to a bar for a bachlorette she most likely knows what she is in for.
But then I ama girl that lives in Vegas.
Post # 3
theatrejulia: Thats definitely true! and she has told me before that she goes to parties occasionaly so it’s not like she’s never been around it, she just doesn’t really drink herself. We’re going to a bech town for two days so there won’t be anything too crazy going on!
Post # 4
bambiiandthefox: Unless she only ever socialises with a certain group (e.g. only with a church group and never anyone else), she’s seen people drink and get at least little drunk. Since you say she “goes to parties occasionally”, she’s seen it almost certainly.
Don’t get too worried about the fact that she doesn’t drink, especially since you only plan on getting “a little” drunk. Lots of people don’t drink, for all sorts of reasons. “Non-drinker” doesn’t equate to “judgemental of anyone who drinks”.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t judge or think any less of a bride who lets loose for her bachelorette party! Just make sure your Bridesmaid or Best Man is comfortable and don’t force her to do anything she doesn’t want to do (peer pressure to drink, do shots, get rowdy etc). I’m sure if she’s going to a bachelorette she understands you well enough to know its not a weekly occurrence and you’re just having a bit of fun in celebration of the occasion.
Post # 6
I personally wouldn’t think poorly of you. I think it really depends on the individual and exactly how conservative they are. I have friends who consider themselves to be Christian conservatives who go to bars and parties and lived with their SO prior to marriage. I have other friends who consider themselves Christian conservatives and do none of those things and are critical of those who do.
Post # 7
As a non-drinker I definitely don’t judge people for getting a bit tipsy. The only times I’ve been less than impressed by drinkers is when they a) use the alcohol as an excuse to do things they know they shouldn’t and acting like it wasn’t their fault, b) pressuring me to join in. I’m respecting your choice to drink and I’m not asking you to stop, you in return respect my choice to not drink. It’s only weird if someone makes it weird!
ETA: I can only speak for myself here but my experience has been more that people will pressure me to join and badger me about it non-stop until I just leave, so don’t be surprised if she is a little guarded about it at first. It’s tough to relax when your experiences have mostly been negative in the past.
Post # 8
I am a conservative christian who doesnt drink, however I still like to go out to bars with friends (i just get coke or water), and I don’t mind being around people who are drunk. All the bachelorette parties I’ve been to most/all of the girls get drunk or at least tipsy and I would never think less/differently of any of them based on what they do when their drunk (unless it involves drunk driving). Its your bachelorette party! I think she understands that this is a fun/happy time in your life and you should be able to let loose!
Post # 9
bambiiandthefox: Sometimes a non drinking friend can get left out of the merriment if the others are uninhibited and telling inside jokes so if you want to go out of your way to help her be comfortable, just make that little extra effort to include her in the convos and compliment how she looks!
Post # 10
Depends what you mean by conservative. If she agreed to go out and knows what kind of a party it is, she probably doesn’t care. I personally don’t get drunk (but do drink occasionally, as I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it) and don’t like being around drunk people..just not fun for me, but I don’t judge people who do get tipsy/drunk as long as they’re not the kind of person who says it’s wrong to drink/get drunk…and then do it anyway.