Question for couples w/SO from another country, how did you handle your wedding?

posted 8 months ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 16
131 posts
Blushing bee

Following. Boyfriend or Best Friend is American, I am Italian. We live in New York and most of our friends are here. All my family lives in Italy. Now that engagement is super close, we have been discussing a lot how to have our wedding and where. I would love to have it here in New York, but the downside is that it would be much more expensive, and my father most likely wouldn’t come. He is very old, has moderate medical issues, and hates to fly. 

I really would want to have some kind of celebration here in New York. Maybe church wedding in Italy with regular wedding party there and civil wedding here with a more relaxed-fun party here?

Post # 19
131 posts
Blushing bee

newlydutchbee :  I haven’t considered that yet. Do you know if there is any differences? I am inclined to have our religious wedding in Italy and our civil wedding here. The religious wedding in Italy is legally valid (at least over there). This way we will be legally married in both countries. What do you think?

Btw I am superexcited, the ring has been in the house since last friday and I can’t wait to be officially engaged to my wonderful man!!! 🙂


Post # 21
3844 posts
Honey bee

newlydutchbee :  We don’t expect all guests to travel for our wedding but rather only VIP’s (family and best friends). So we are compromising by having our civil wedding (by a judge) in the US and a Catholic wedding in his country (on a later date). The civil wedding is on the casual side (kinda tropical, outdoor style) and more intimate while the Catholic wedding will have a larger guest list and will have the elements of a traditional/classic wedding.

Post # 22
7619 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

lunalovegood88 :  

Actually no-one, let alone ‘a lot’ say “ it’s rude to have more than one wedding”  . What is said however , is that it is not on to conceal  the fact  that a couple are already married and then call  the  public/social ceremony  a wedding so that guests think they are witnessing  something they are not .  Or when people  denigrate their courthouse marriage as if it were something meaningless compared to the subsequent ceremony with the dresses and cake and guests etc .   

Everyone accepts that  cultural  and military circumstances often mean two equally necessary/important ceremonies .

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