(Closed) Question for moms…

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I am not a mom yet (preggo), though I am a mom to furbabies lol. I choose option #3 because personally for DH and me, time together as a family is paramount to all else. The idea of having a baby and having him be away overnight several nights a week for 2.5 yrs would totally bum both of us out. 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

I have three children and I’ve always worked full time plus travel. For me it would come down to who gets the call from daycare/school in the middle of a workday when a child is sick. If it’s you, or if your parents would cover I’d go for Option #2 hands down. (That dreaded call always seems to come when I’m on a tight deadline somehow.) If there is a possibility you may have another child before you can move–even more support for Option #2–parental help is a big, big factor.

If your DH can truly share equally in pickups, drop offs, child sick emergencies, etc. I would consider Option #3. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Definitely not option 1.

How long is your husband’s workday? For option 2, how many nights per week would he be away? I’m thinking if he’d be at work late anyway (coming home after baby is in bed) and it would only be like 2 nights away from home per week, it might be worth it.

Having a 6-month old, I can say that for me, spending as much time as possible with my baba is pretty much my top priority every day. I didn’t expect it to be as big of a thing as it is for me. Her daycare is 12 minutes from my office, I’m even able to go during my lunch break to feed her and play with her a little, and even then, I’m constantly racing out the door at the end of the day to get back to her as soon as I can.

Also, having help from parents makes SUCH a difference.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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Poshbecs:  I would want my kid close to me and the shortest possible commute. I’d go with option 2. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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Poshbecs:  a spare set of hands in the form of grandparents is a godsend with small children. For that reason I would pick option 2. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Im not a parent but i would chose #2 if i was.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have 2 kids and I’d definitely say #2.  

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

#2 for sure!!! I have a 6 month old and you definitely do NOT want to be commuting for hours a day knowing you could be at home with your baby.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

Option 2 and factor special family nights as part of this and some time for yourself as well if your husband has a night or two away each week. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I’d pick 2, baby comes first for us.

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