(Closed) Question for my HR/Hiring Bees. Please help! : )

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 5
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you need to focus on getting the job before you worry about the start date.  I wouldn’t mention this in your first e-mail to them.  Tell them what a great fit you are for the position!

Post # 6
1404 posts
Bumble bee

You are putting the cart before the horse.  Also – your email has way too much drama in it and also talks a huge circle.  If I received that response I would think you were high maintenance and that would be the end of it.  I would say this:

‘My ideal starting date for the position would be September 17th. However, I would be able to come in the week of August 27th to train with the outgoing employee.  While I realize you may be looking for an earlier starting date, I am the ideal candidate because…..’

Post # 8
4313 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I hate to say this, but if all things are equal between you & another candidate & they can start at the time they are asking, they will probably go with them in the end anyways.  I am in HR so I am only saying this from experience.

If you far outweigh all other candidates, they will work with you on the starting date.

Your wedding & honeymoon are a handful of days.  A career lasts much longer than that, and while I know it’s not ideal to go in before your wedding, I would make every opportunity to do so, especially if you know you are losing your job.

I actually think your response is candid, upfront & firm — and he needs to know now before later.

Good luck!

Post # 9
164 posts
Blushing bee

I would absolutely not mention the wedding at all. They are already giving you an option to say that you cannot start on their proposed date…no need to make excuses at this point. 


I would simply say that you are available to train the week of the 27th and start on 9/17. 

Post # 10
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

No caveats on your end until you get the actual offer.  If you’re available to do the training then you’re available for the training, I wouldn’t mention anything else before getting a solid job offer.  Then explain in person or on the phone (not by email or text) that you’re getting married on blah blah date and then going on your honeymoon so you would need those dates off and understand they will likely be unpaid.

@Sunflower–girl:  Use her wording.

Post # 11
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Don’t mention the wedding.  Just let them know when you can train and when you can start.

If they mentioned the start date up front, then the transition must be a priority.  20 days is pretty ambitious considering what you’d expect for an interview process, background check and 2-week notice for current employers, so they might be prioritizing start date over qualifications.

Post # 12
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@deetroitwhat:  +1

@Sunflower–girl:  +1


I know it blows, but HR needs to hire qualified people that are available and the less commitments you have ( aka days you need off) the better you are! And the economy, as you saw has hundreds of applicants viying for every job, so they have the option to be very selective!

Post # 14
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Robin_Sparkles: They say honesty is the best policy- and if he is looking for people to be upfront , then go for it!  I hear ya on having the worst timing..your not alone! Keep us updated, I hope you get the job and it all works out!!

Post # 16
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would be concerned that mentioning the wedding may make them fear that you will be out on maternity leave shortly into imployment with them. Unfortunately, some companies out there do think this way. I agree with an above posting that said if it comes down to you and another candidate, the one willing to start when they need/want will get the job.

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