Post # 1
I have a question for all the new moms here. I am pregnant and due in January. My husband just got invited to a bachelor party in Vegas for one of his best friends in March, when the baby will be about 10 weeks old. The party will be over a long weekend so potentially my husband would be gone for 2-3 nights. We both want my husband to be able to go, but we’re also a little worried that it might be too much, too soon for me to be alone all weekend with a new baby. I don’t have friends or family around to help. I realize we will have a better idea of what’s do-able after the baby is born, but he needs to book his travel soon if he’s going to go at all. My husband is being really sweet and wants to make sure he doesn’t leave me in a pickle 🙂
What do you think he should do?
Post # 3
10 weeks old isn’t too terribly young. Will you still be on maternity leave then?
Post # 4
@caszos: Yes, I will be home on maternity leave until 12 weeks.
Post # 5
I’m sure you’ll be fine for a long weekend – think of it as extra special bonding time for you and the new little one! I say let him go and enjoy the full bachelor party.
Post # 6
By 10 weeks, you’ll probably be feeling a lot more confident/capable in the parenting department. 🙂 Just make him promise to give you a little break when he gets home from Vegas!
Post # 7
I’d say leave the invitation open and let them know why. You’re due date may not be entirely correct so the baby may be younger or older than you’re planning at that point. I’d say if you think you can handle it then let him go but I could see declining the invite just so he wouldn’t have to buy a last minute ticket. I’m sure they’d understand.
Post # 8
I agree with Mrs. Spring, you’ll be feeling better at that point and more confident, and he’ll get a bit of a break, then you get one when he gets home. You could also comprimise and he could go for one of the two nights or two of the three nights.
Post # 9
my little one just turned 6 weeks today and i know personally i would be okay with my SO going on a long weekend but i also have the benifit of being with family. i think you would be ok with 2-3 nights of 1 on 1 time with baby. and like other have said you will be alot more conifdent in your parenting skills by the time the trip comes around you will be like “why did i even worry about this?”
Post # 10
My baby is almost 6 months old and just last week my husband went out of town for two nights and it was really hard and I was totally exhausted. If possible I would try to get someone to help you… can a family member or friend come and visit for the weekend??
Post # 11
I’m like you and I have no family where i live and my son is 10 weeks old. I would be able to cope if he went away, but I know my SO isn’t ready to leave us yet! LOL. If he really wants to go, then I would suggest only to go for 1/2 nights as I would find a long weekend too long. But, you might find that when it rolls around you Darling Husband may not want to leave you 🙂
Post # 12
I did EVERYTHING with the baby from the time we got home to the time I went back to work because my Fiance was afraid of hurting him. At the hospital my Fiance did everything because I couldn’t get out of bed and he’s fine now but I did everything and it was fine because they mostly sleep and eat. I’m sure you will be fine but I’d ask him to come home early from it just in case.
Post # 13
Ok, so we actually went through this exact scenario. Mr. DG left for 4 (4!) days for a bachelor party when we had just moved to SLC. So I had NO (NO!) help and was by myself with the baby the whole time.
I wouldn’t have been so bitter except for the fact that he didn’t tell me it was going to be 4 days. He flew to California, so it was hard to make it much shorter.
We got through it, but in the end I would have been happier if 1) there was better communiction 2) it was 2 days instead of four.
In the end, when he came home he was so happy to be back because he missed us so much and he owes me a spa day 🙂 He was grateful and I felt powerful for being able to do it!