Post # 1
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Honey bee
So the thread about who swears more you or your Fiance got me thinking….How on earth am I going to keep that potty mouth of mine shut when we have kids. I hate when people swear around young kids but at the same time I hate having to filter everything all the time. I have to filter so much at work that I want to keep the filters to a minimum outside of work but at the same time keep my speech PG. So a question to all parent Bees who have potty mouths, how do you deal? 😕
Post # 2
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Busy bee
- Wedding: April 2017 - Not sure
I swear around my son all the time… Oh wait, he’s a dog… Anyway, I’m sure your “protective parent” gene will kick in by then. I know for my parents, they rarely sweared. I’m still floored when my parents say the eff word! They NEVER dropped the Fbomb when I was growing up. If you slip, you slip. It doesn’t mean you won’t make an excellent mom. It means you’re human 😉
Post # 3
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Worker bee
I swear around my kid frequently, she’s 14 now but I always have. However, I don’t swear in anger around her – like I might use words in an enthuastic way but I try to be as careful as possible not to curse in anger in front of her. My husband doesn’t swear as much as me so he has an easier time. However, I just don’t think it matters all that much, honestly. Both my parents cursed around me and my brothers when we were growing up, my parents are both super educated and very “appropriate” and definitely taught us when it was ok and when it isn’t.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
I don’t have children yet, but 3 of my siblings are under the age of 13 so I guess I’m just used to watching my language when kids are around. It’s never actually been something that I’ve struggled with, although I know that both my dad and step mum will sometimes swear without thinking when the kids are around – they seem to struggle with this more than me!
My Future Sister-In-Law has 2 little boys – she and her husband are very good about not swearing in front of them, but 2 of my other FSILs have attrocious language when they’re around lol. The Future Sister-In-Law in question actually started a swear jar – every time one of her sisters swears and the kids are around, they’re told to put some money into the jar. It actually really helped the sisters to keep an eye on their audience lol.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
ana2017: Trust me – once your toddler becomes a parrot and you hear your own words repeated it will sharpen you up real fast. It sounds WRONG to hear a baby swear. Or I guess some people find it funny when kids swear. But that probably lends itself to other questionable parenting styles.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
We swear around our kids occasionally but it is not intentional and I don’t freak out if other adults swear in their presence. The second they pick up and start doing it we correct them. My now 8 year old said fuck once when the dog wouldn’t come inside when he was 3, I was floored because that was a word I never said around him. I corrected him and told him that is not a word he is allowed to use. He hasn’t sworn since and won’t even spell a swear word.
I do say “oh shit” a lot. My 3 year old started saying it and I correct him to say “oh shoot” so now he runs around saying “oh shoot”. They don’t keep swearing once I correct them. By correct I mean explaining to them that they are not allowed to say those words and they just listen. They don’t listen to everything I tell them but that they listen to that lol.
Post # 7
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Honey bee
*sigh* ok. Thanks for answering everyone.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
My parents swore around me until the day when I dropped a toy out of my playpen and said “Oh f***!”
Kids repeat everything they hear, and as a parent I doubt you would want your kid cussing at daycare/school so your filter will probably kick in naturally. Yeah it may not be the best filter in the beginning, but once your kid says “shit” the filter will become a lot better.
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
ana2017: I’m a teacher so I control my mouth at school around kids so I dont really have an issue doing it at home around my neices or nephews.
My nephew once said, “DAMN, THATS HOT!” after taking a taste of soup. When my Mother-In-Law told him that wasn’t appropriate, his response was, “What? Sometimes you just have to say damn.” It was SO freaking funny.
Now that he’s older, if he hears his mom or my Mother-In-Law curse, he’ll just say, “SWEAR JAR!” and they have to put money in it so he definitely knows those are bad words.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
Fuck it. Are you a worse person because you swear? Often, a swear word is the most apt for a specific situation. You wouldn’t want to hinder yor child’s ability to use the perfect word, would you?