I think that if you have no idea that an engagement is coming, then that’s a huge problem. I think it’s something that needs to be discussed…not just something that comes out of the blue.
Sure, the event of the actual proposal could be a completly unexpected moment, but the fact that it was going to happen in the near future, shouldn’t be.
That being said, my proposal was probably a nightmare scenario for some, but that’s just how we roll.
One hot summer day, we were in the city, at a Toyota dealership, looking at buying a new truck for DH (we never had bought a new vehicle before). A while back, I made a comment jokingly that he better get me a ring before he gets a brand new truck. I wasn’t totally serious, but I guess it stuck with him.<br />When we came across the perfect truck, and were getting ready to test drive it, he looked at me and said, “uhm… I kind of have a rather large amount of money on my credit card right now. If we need a downpayment, can we put it on your card?” So immediately, I was like, “What on earth do you have on your card?!” ….and he admitted that he had just put my engagment ring on his card the day before, which he was paying off with his paycheque that was coming the following week.
So, really that was my proposal. I was quite happy regardless. lol
The day that I actually got my ring was a doozie.
I was driving home in my crappy, old hyundai when BAM, right in rushhour, my alternator dies. I’ve got no power, no lights, people are honking thier horns at me, and I am losing it (I have pretty bad driving anxiety, so a scenario like this is a nightmare for me). I am able to muster just enough power to get the car to the gas station ahead and pull over.
I call DH and he says, “oh man, that really sucks. Is there any way you can get your mom to get you? A buddy called and needs my help on a job.”
I was not impressed. Here I was, traumatized and upset, and my wonderful boyfriend wouldn’t come help me?! WTF.
Like 2 minutes later he called me back to let me know he was on his way.
When he got there, he admitted that he was actually on his way to pick up my ring so he could officially propose (his plan was to attach it to our dog’s collar). Instead, he drove my car, while I drove his truck behind him. We had to stop multiple times to jump start the car…and finally got it to the scrapyard and left it there. I never wanted to see that POS again..
After that, we drove to the jewelry store together. He went into the store, paid for the ring, and gave it to me in his truck (the new one that he had bought the day he told me about the ring). We went for ice cream, and voila, that is my engagement story.
I can just laugh at the story now. In the grand scheme of things, it really doesn’t matter that I knew ahead of time, or that the proposal wasn’t romance and roses, I was just happy to be getting married to my wonderful SO!