(Closed) Question for the bees who knew it was coming…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Brownbear23:  I knew it was coming and there were little clues a couple of weeks leading up to the proposal, but it was still a complete surprise when it happened.  Check out my face in the lower left pic!

It will definitely be magical even if you know beforehand!  It’s true, most people do say they were completely caught off guard, but it’s because they didn’t know the exact day or time of when it was going to happen.  

Also, I wouldn’t worry about the pressure to have some amazing proposal story since it will be no matter what.  Everyone’s proposal story is different and that’s what makes each one so special.

 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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Brownbear23:  I had no clue a proposal was coming (we had only been together about 7 months and not knowing is really overrrated. I think my shock kept me from acting enthusiastic

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I helped DH by picking out a setting that I liked. I knew that marriage was impending because we had talked seriously about it, and he had asked many subtle questions about it over the years that we had been together. I even knew when he had the ring because there was a one week period when he was closing out all his stuff to move in with me that was the only time that made sense to pick it up.

I still had NO idea that he was going to propose to me on the spot we first met on our university campus. NO idea. He dropped down on one knee and I nearly fell over in shock.

Even if you know it’s coming, you have no idea how he’s going to do it or when he is. It’s still a surprise.

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I knew the proposal was coming but I didn’t know how he was going to do it. We talked about marriage a lot in our relationship and I told him that I wanted to get married when we both had careers and had enough money to buy a house. When he started house hunting, I knew that marriage was going to pop up soon.

He proposed on our 5th year anniversary by handing me a picture book that he illustrated. The book highlighted events from our relationship and the last page said something along the lines of “Will you marry me?” After I put down the book, and saw the ring in his hand. It was a beautiful proposal even though I knew it was coming. I didn’t cry at the time, but when I tell the story to my friends, they end up crying instead!

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

DH had given me a timeline of “before the end of the year”, and joked that it would happen just before the stroke of midnight on New Years Eve. He always said it would never happen on a holiday or during a major even because he felt it was cliché, but after mid-December rolled around, I figured it just wasn’t going to happen. Imagine my surprise when on Christmas Eve he proposed! I knew it was (supposed to be) coming, but it was definitely still special.

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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Brownbear23:  I will tell you my story because though there were no surprises when it came to our engagement, we were both extremely excited each step of the way. DH and I had been together for 6+ years and we are, IMO, older than the average couple getting engaged/married. DH was 42 and I was 39 when we got engaged. The decision to get married came out of mutual discussions we’d had on the next steps in our relationship and it was exciting for us to plan our future together. We went ring shopping together and chose my e-ring together. I tried on the sample ring in white gold with CZ’s in it, but we ordered my ring in rose gold with diamonds. As such, once he got the ring, I chose not to look at it as I wanted the tiny element of surprise of not knowing exactly what the ring looked like.

The proposal itself wasn’t a surprise either, we both planned a weekend away together and we both made it special and all about us…romantic dinners, spa massages, long walks together, etc. He asked me just after midnight on the Saturday night, not on one knee as we were both sitting on the grass. It was the night of the Perseid meteor shower and we were in a remote area so we were surrounded by stars and shooting stars. Did I feel any less special because I wasn’t surprised? No….because finally this was what I had been waiting for, the only man that I had ever wanted to spend the rest of my life with, the man I wanted to have children with and grow old with, was asking me to do all of that. I love my proposal story and it still goose bumps thinking about it. We truly felt like the only two people in the world and hearing him say the words were my dreams coming true. Not once through the whole process of discussing our future, choosing a ring and planning our proposal weekend did I ever wish that it was a surprise. It all was just very “us” and I wouldn’t change a single thing.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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Brownbear23:  Reassure you? Sure thing!!! I knew it was coming.

I helped ring shop, chose the setting and knew when it was going to be ready. I also knew that it would be on my hand within a day of that because we were having a Christmas party at our place that weekend. We planned to announce our engagement at the party. 

Well, DH told me that the ring was going to be a day late! He tricked me! So he lured me into our living room right when I got home from work, still wearing my dirty work clothes, and he got down on one knee and said, “Miss Fizzy, will you marry me?” It was absolutely magical! I have goosebumps thinking about it. It was great. I know it was a simple at home proposal, but I loved it and was soo happy. 

Then we went to tell our parents together… Nobody knew so it was fun to break the news, and then we put it on Facebook and watched the well wishes pour in. Thinking back, I think it was every bit as wonderful as if it had been a surprise. Maybe even better, since the ring was exactly what I wanted.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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Rafissch:  “Most likely to make a scene”

LOL! This sure made me smile, awesome!

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I definitely knew it was coming and once we got to dinner (he proposed after) I knew it was going to be that night. I still couldn’t have imagined being any more excited bc the moment was finally there and real. 

The other thing about knowing it was coming was that I kept thinking it was the day any time he did something cute, we went to a nice dinner, we went on a hike, everything!  So my incorrect guesses definitely kept me on my toes with excitement!

Post # 41
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Worker bee

I helped pick the rings but sure as hell was not expecting it how or when it happened!  Still magical and lovely to me. 

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

I knew it was coming (and had even said to a workmate that I thought it was going to happen the day before!), despite his efforts to throw me off the scent, but that didn’t make it any less amazing and wonderful.  And I still cried…

Post # 43
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Busy bee

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Brownbear23:  my DH talked to me twig weeks before he proposed but the way he talked about it at the time made me feel like we were already engaged so I got to be in this weird flux, where are we, what are we? phase for two weeks when he actually made it official and proposed. My proposal was no fairy tale but it was still wonderful and he managed to surprise me. 

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

I knew it was coming but that still didn’t change how entirely emotional it made me. In our case we had gone shopping together and picked out a ring. Fiance gave me a time frame of several months to expect the proposal. For the next 2 weeks I was a nervous anxious wreck waiting on that ring that Fiance said ” get in the car, your coming with me to get your ring”. After it was picked up he made it official by officially popping the question that same day at the site of our first date. The second he got down on one knee, I burst into tears. So nerves aside, lack of surprise aside, the moment itself still became incredibly special and meaningful. To this day he teases me that he can never surprise me but I still remember how I became speechless when he officially he asked.

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Brownbear23:  I mean… I don’t know that my proposal was as exciting or thrilling or special as it would have been had it been a complete surprise. But the trade off is that I got dozens of wonderful intimate moments leading up to it when my now-fiance and I would talk about how much we wanted to be engaged and married to one another. I don’t *love* my proposal story, and a lot of that is because it felt silly to him to plan something really big because then I would KNOW it was the proposal (and I’d requested it be a surprise), so he “surprised” me by sneaking it in to a nice but not spectacular day I had planned for us. But I do love that we got to make the decision as a couple, and decide as a couple when it was going to be good timing for us, and that I had the engagement to look forward to (and yes, at a certain point agonize over) for awhile. It was nice knowing it was coming and carrying that knowledge around like a special secret. 

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