Question for the Childless Bees

posted 3 years ago in No Kids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

shaleigh85 :  not this bad, but the “you’ll change your mind when you get older”

“oh just wait till your biological clock ticks”

i think the parts for my “clock” must be in the post…

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016 - Backyard

shaleigh85 :  I get told I’m selfish. I think having kids can in some cases be selfish.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

We actually want kids eventually but I get the “you don’t know tired” comments. They always tick me off and rub me the wrong way. Like I can be tired, its not a contest. 

I would probably tell your SIL to back off on the real woman comments. That makes me irritated and I don’t even know her! 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

shaleigh85 :  oh yeah. a couple months ago, SIL was visiting with her husband and 18mo old (but staying with cousin fri night, us only sat night). our friends from texas were also visiting that weekend, and crashing with us friday. it had been a long week, and then we were entertaining friends friday night, and all in all i was sleep deprived come saturday. saturday we met up SIL et al, had lunch, and went home with plans for them to drive over to our place later (because they were being very wishy washy about afternoon plans). SIL and Fiance got into a fight later about making plans, and SIL said something to Fiance along the lines of “catskillsinjune was rather rude wanting to go home earlier. your life is all fun, you don’t get to say you’re tired.” yeah, apparently only parents have any right to be sleep deprive. Fiance very forecefully told her that she chose to be a parent, and her life choices don’t invalidate how we are feeling.

Post # 8
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6447 posts
Bee Keeper

shaleigh85 :  Your SIL comment was incredibly rude!  The thing is, I think many women just don’t understand how their comments come off when they say them to people, childless or not.  I wish people would rethink their comments to others before stating them.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

We actually are planning to have kids but haven’t had any up to this point. My cousin who I rarely see told my dad at an event (where I was not present) “Thank God Slomotion doesn’t have any children, she’d be a terrible mother.”

She’s an uppity bitch anyway, though.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

shaleigh85 :  We did want kids but weren’t ready to start trying yet. We had a couple awesome trips on the horizon at the time (a ski trip and friend’s wedding as well as a big, non-kid friendly trip to Amsterdam, Dubai, the Serengeti and Zanzibar). I was 31 at the time and a fried of my younger brother’s cornered me at a party. I had a cocktail in my hand and I think it was obvious it wasn’t my first haha. She demanded to know why I wasn’t pregnant yet. She told me she didn’t EVEN KNOW WHAT SHE DID BEFORE HAVING KIDS!!! She got pregnant at 19 so I was tempted to say, “well, you went to high school. That’s what you did before you had kids…”

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Oh I get comments like this frequently. A new coworker started and we were doing the usual small talk. She asked if I had kids and I replied that no, I don’t really want them, at least not yet. She snapped at me “what’s wrong with you?” Yeah I avoid her now lol

My sister told me I was an evil person and hateful because I don’t want kids. And that I’m selfish because some women can’t have kids. So that makes me a bitch apparently. Lol

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