Post # 1
I live in Seattle and have been here for 6 years. My family (mom, sisters, and gran’ma) are in Dallas and I’ll be visiting them in 5 weeks.
As some of you ladies know, I’m not engaged yet but he showed me the diamond over a month ago. Even though I’m not engaged yet, I am trying to plan my trip home. I would L-O-V-E to go dress shopping for the first time with my family there.
So, let’s say I am engaged before the the time I go home in 5 weeks.
So, a question for those of you that have been shopping:
Should I go with my friends locally to try on dresses and narrow down the options so that I can buy a dress when I’m in home (which will probably be cheaper!)
Should I go dress shopping for the first time with my family?
I feel like I can’t answer this on my own since I haven’t been shopping and know it all works.
Post # 3
It would have been hard for me to not have had my mom there the first time I tried on dresses. I continued to look with friends, and when I thought I found it, scheduled another appointment with her there.
Post # 4
I went dress shopping all by myself the first time just so I could get a sense of the territory. I can be overwhelming, so I wanted to get my bearings before bringing anyone else… that way when I was with my mom or friends or whomever, I didn’t have to worry about the bigger picture of “how this all works” and I could focus more on the dress experience. Also, having a sense of what I wanted before brining people with me helped me say “no” a lot easier when others wanted to suggest things that I already knew would just be a waste of time. Hope this helps!
Most of all, take pictures so you can see yourself in the dresses and make a decision based on YOU (rather than an advertisement with a model). Have fun!!!
Post # 5
I think it depends on what you’re comfortable with and who you want there with you to share in the experience of finding your dress. For me personally, it was important to have my mom, grandma, godmother, and my 2 sisters with me so I wouldn’t go without them.
Post # 6
I went shopping with one friend who was also getting married. It was great not to have too many opinions while I was still figuring out what I wanted in a dress.
Post # 7
My process was similar to @Miichelle. I’m a people pleaser and didn’t want to get talked into something I normally wouldn’t choose for myself 🙂
Post # 8
The first time I went dress shopping I went with my Mom and my best and closest girlfriends (who I do not get to see very often) and I think because of that I felt this pressure to buy a dress and was talked into a purchase I regretted pretty much immediately. Having them all together was such a rare thing that I felt a ton of pressure to get a dress right then, otherwise I would “miss out” on the opportunity to do it with them. I wish I had tried on dresses before hand so that I had an idea what I liked and what looked good on me. I wouldn’t have been so overwhelmed and pressured into it a purchase if I had tried on dresses before.
So… I say to scope some out in Seattle either alone or with some of your friends up there.
Post # 9
So it sounds like some of you are suggesting I go before I go with my family to get a feeling for it?
And others are sayig it was important to you to go with your families first?
I worry that if I go before I go with my family, then I go with my family I won’t find it and we won’t have a special memory about it one way or another.
I’m not particularly close with my family but it would be special to have that memory with them anyway.
Post # 10
@SeattleMolly: You have to go with what you feel is more comfortable for you. If you have that worry and want to have that special memory with your family, I would suggest you wait and go with them first. Just know, whenever and whatever you decided, dress shopping is all about you. Your family and friend are there to support you but the dress decision is yours. If you don’t feel right/comfortable buying a dress or feel rushed into buying something, don’t buy it. Go with your instincts.
Post # 11
I would go with your family first, and then if you don’t find anything, go with your friends. You can always show your family pictures of the gowns, and then make your decision on which gown to get. That way your family would be involved throughout the whole process.