(Closed) Question for the hive: re substantial gifts

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Accept gracefully, let them know how much you appreciate it and promise that soon their will be grand kids…

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow!

  I think I would receive it gracefully, with profuse thanks.  they’re family and they love you.  Of course they don’t have to give, but they did!

(All this would be after a discussion with your husband though?  what does he think?)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Graciously accept! It can feel weird to accept large gifts like this, but they love you, and wouldn’t have offered if they didn’t want to do it.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

lol crebre80!

MrsDG, this is tricky ground to tread b/c some folks get a little insulted/offended if you don’t accept their gifts.  It should be a joint decision with your partner, for sure because depending on which side of the family it’s coming from they may or may not be able to provide input, history on those kinds of offers, etc.

In my mind, they wouldn’t offer if they didn’t want to help and a lot of people express their gratitude for the things they have by sharing with others, so, I agree with crebre that a graceful acceptance would be where I’d be leaning (with my partner’s input of course).

HTH!

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Ohh honey you married into a great family and they adore you.. but umm i feel the same way, after all my parents want to buy us both cars (later models, but still) and have us pay them back… that’s freaky scary to me because well I dunno you know what I mean?!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Ah, DG, I feel ya.  My husband’s family is a lot more monetarily generous than I’m used to.  There are definite times it makes me uncomfortable, too.  Not that I don’t appreciate their kindness, but I’m just not sure how to react.  I think your husband probably knows his family best, so I would let him make the final decision.  Remember, they’re your family now, too!  They probably just want to support you the way they do their other children.  🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@mrs dg: my parents NEVER have offered this to me, even when i was a struggling single mom!!! i mean these are the folks that said i couldn’t move in with them because i wasn’t married and had a kid!!! i’m really very worried because everyone expects m to propose on christmas and i know he’s not and i wonder how they will take it… that really bugs me… i told him to call and warn my mom that he didn’t plan to 😀

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