(Closed) Question for women using fertility treatment over other options

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

The reason why I’m starting fertility treatments this month is because I want to have the baby.  I want to be pregnant and feel what it’s like to feel a child grow in my body.  I think that’s part of the whole process.

Every person is different – and that may not be important to some women… but it’s important to me.  That’s also not to discount surrogacy or adoption, because if I tried fertility treatments and still had no luck, that would be my next step.

It really depends on the reason one can’t conceive on her own.  For example, I just can’t ovulate, so if I take medication to make myself ovulate, hopefully I will be able to conceive and carry full term. 

Hope that helps you some!

Post # 4
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I also want to be pregnant, and my fertility issue is that I don’t ovulate.  As far as I am aware, there is no reason I would not be able to carry or give birth to a child.  The medicine only has to help me ovulate to get the process started. 

The options of surrogacy and adoption are way far down the road for me.  There are a lot of options I will consider first if the medicine does not work, including different medications, and IUI or IVF. 

About the money issue, my insurance does not cover treatments or medication, but the cost has been surprisingly low so far.  My pills are $50 per month, and my monthly injection is $100.  Other than that, I have frequent blood work and ultrasound that actually is covered (I guess it is considered “fertility diagnosis” not “treatment”)  but if it wasn’t, it would be around $150 each time.  How often I need to go varies.

For me, the cost of the treatments are worth the (very good) possibility that I will be able to carry a child.  If my infertility issues were more serious, then I would consider adoption.


Post # 5
682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Like the PP have said, I want to know what it is like to be pregnant. Darling Husband and I really want a biological child. But if after trying everything possible we are open to adoption.

My mother had fertility issues and adopted my sister after five years of TTC. She kept trying for six more years and then had me. So we are very open to adoption.

Surrogacy and adoption are not as easy as people think. They can be just as hard as going through actual fertility treatments. In California the mother has 6 months to decide if she wants her baby back. 6 months! I have had friends who tried to adopt twice and both times the mother ended up taking the baby back. Talk about heartbreak. They finally got lucky when they adopted older siblings (1, 3, and 5 I think?). And for surrogacy, if she is using her own eggs she will still have to go through fertility treatments in order to produce enough eggs for transfer.

No option is easy. Every couple has to decide for themselves which path they want to take. I strongly recommend this website Resolve for more information regarding infertility.


Post # 7
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

If I was going through what your friend was going through, then I think surrogacy or adoption would be my decision.  I wouldn’t want to get pregnant knowing I was very high risk or would need to be on bed rest. 

I think the main difference is not being able to conceive, or not being able to carry a baby.  Most of us on fertility medicine just aren’t able to conceive naturally. 

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