Post # 1
My Fiance and I are getting married in a little over a month. Kind of crazy how fast time has gone by. Nervous but excited to finally get to marry my best friend!!! Well this past Saturday my Fiance told me he got his orders. He is to report to San Diego November 6th I believe for a couple months then wow the biggie hit, he is being sent to Japan in March. Obviously by the time he goes to San Diego we’ll be already married but I’ve heard from many forums I’ve read and even here than if a sailor is given orders prior to getting married then the spouse cant join them wherever they’re sent. My Fiance has emailed his sponsor and told him that he is currently engaged and the sponsor replied asking if we would be married by the time he would be sent to Japan and if he was going to bring me along. My Fiance is an E4 right now but apparently they are given some kind of test a couple weeks or months after being at their home port that would increase their rank I believe (im not to familiar with the exact name). So he was told he would probably live on the ship for a few months then get transferred to the barracks and I can after a few months follow him to Japan.
My question is if anyone has gone through this or has any information for me. I’m nervous we’ll get married next month and wont be able to be with him for a couple years and im scared to get my hopes up about moving with him if it turns out I cant go. His sponsor hasnt responded yet to his emailed where my Fiance said he wants to take me along so im trying to see if I can get any answers from other places.
Another question I have is that I currently live in Miami and my Fiance is in Great Lakes, once we get married how soon would insurance kick in for me to be covered? and do I have to be seen by military doctors or can I keep going to my doctors? Specially with him going to San Diego and Japan would I be getting insurance and coverage in my area if I cant follow him where he is sent yet?
Post # 3
I can’t help too much with the Japan thing, but I do know that (if he’s eligible to) he can sponsor you to Japan after the fact even if you’re not on his inital orders.
Also, Tricare Standard insurance kicks in the day you get married. Even technically before you’re enrolled in DEERS – but I wouldn’t want to go through that insurance claim nightmare.
You should get into Tricare and DEERS ASAP and you can do that at any base. You can choose Tricare Stanard or Prime. On Standard you pick your own doctors as long as they accept Tricare, Prime assigns you a primary care manager (may be military, may not be) and then you have to get referrals for any other doctor aside from your dentist, optometrist and ob-gyn. There are other differences, but that’s the big one. You’ll have to read the literature to decide which suits you best.
If you have more questions you can PM me and I’ll try to help, but he should talk to his superiors/chief about what to do about taking you to Japan.
Post # 4
Darling Husband and I got married after he had orders to Hawaii. The only thing we really had to do was I had to get a command sponsorship (DH routed a paper through his command saying it was okay that we were married) so we could get into base housing. Also, you need command sponsorship to register a car (if the car is in your name and your name only.) With Japan being a foreign country, you may have to have additional paperwork plus possible vaccines. Your Fiance should check into that for you.
As soon as you get married go to DEERS and get enrolled. Get your military ID and go to the Tricare office. There are two options Prime and Standard. Prime is free, but you have an assigned doctor (mine is military, but not all of them are) that you go to everything for. If you need a referral to see an ob/gyn, urologist, or whatever, your PCM gives you a referral. If you go on your own, Tricare won’t cover it. Standard you have deductibles and copays, but get to choose your own doctors within the network.
You are covered to go to any emergency room the moment your enroll in DEERS. You can go to emergency room or PCM the moment you enroll in Tricare. Sometimes it takes a whole month for you to go anywhere besides those two places.
Post # 5
With the Japan thing: If possible have a legal ceremony so you are his dependent. As soon as you get married get into DEERS and make sure he updates his sponsor and command. The earlier they know he has a dependent, the more they’ll do to accomodate you. He already has unaccompanied orders, there still may be time to change them- the earlier you become his dependent the better chance there is of that- but every day counts. To move overseas is a long process. The military requires all sorts of health/dental screens and paper work. Have him contact his detailer to see if getting married now so you can start this process would have any effect on his orders. The military won’t consider you until you’re legally married.
And about tricare- if you want to see civilian doctor’s tricare standard is the way to go. You have a co pay that costs a little more than prime. An example: I’m in nursing school and needed a bunch of immunizations. My classmate has prime and got all of hers without having to pay anything. Overall, mine cost 30-40 dollars. Another student who did not have insurance paid over 1500 dollars.
Personally, I don’t see the doctor a whole lot so I have standard because when I do I want to choose my physician.
Post # 6
I am a navy wife as of may this year so I’m very new to all of this as well. My hubby is being deployed to bahrain for a little over a year and then stationed in San diago for about 10 months. Unfortunately I have to stay behind because I have a 6 year old daughter that needs stability. I can only offer you emotional advice. But no matter what the outcome of you moving to Japan right away or not. Think of it as a speed bump in a lifetime of happiness with eachother. 🙂 it’ll all work out just be patient. It’s not always easy being a military wife and it comes with some sacrifices. But we are given the gift of appriciation. We charish the times that we do have with our husbands that much more. When things seem tough lean on support groups that have woman that can relate. And regardless of what some women say lean on your husband too. Just because he isn’t with you all the time it’ll make him feel close to you and he’ll feel needed. 🙂 I hope this helps a little. I know it’s scary. Hang in there and congratulations to you both!!
Post # 7
I don’t really know much about it, but I did have a friend recently go through the same thing.
Her Fiance was getting ready to get orders, and they were pretty sure he was getting Germany. It’s not that she *couldn’t* go with him, it was that the military wouldn’t pay to move HER if he got orders before they were married. They ended up having a courthouse wedding (big wedding was already underway), then got their orders like a month later, and then had their big wedding about 3 weeks before they moved.