Post # 1
So in the next 2 weeks we are finalizing our guest list and sending out save the dates…. Two questions regarding kids at the wedding.
1. I would rather not have anyone under 18 at our wedding. I would rather this be an adult function. I know I’m probably going to make some people upset over this, especially my out of town guests. How do you tread lightly without making everyone mad?
2. I have two children by my first marriage 10 years ago. They will be in our wedding. However they are still pretty young (9+12). Their Dad and StepMum are not invited to the wedding, so where are they supposed to go after the reception?? My Mom would have taken them but she’s passed on and no longer with us. I feel uncomfortable asking my Dad. HELP!!!!
Thanks for your help and advice!! <3
Post # 2
Hi, I think its becoming more and more common to have adult only weddings so I don’t think many people will be upset. For alot of parents they will welcome a night away from the kids! I would just specify ‘adults only’ reception on the save the date and invite. If you have a lot of guests with children is it possible to arrange a babysitting service in a room near the reception for people who are travelling out of town (or ‘accidently’ forget and bring their children anyway). You could hire someone to look after the children in a room with disney films/ age appropriate toys?
For your second point, are you still friendly with their dad? Enough to request that they could pick your children up after the ceremony? If not, again hiring someone to look after childen for the reception could work. Or do you have an aquintance from teh childrens school or friend of a friend with children the same age that they could stay with?
Post # 3
KateA17: thanks for the advice. I’m highly considering inviting the ex hub and wifey to the wedding. The wife and I are pretty close but not sure how awkward that would be….
Maybe upgrading my Dads room to a suite for him so that the kids could crash there… He has a wife too that could help.
i just don’t want to inconvenience anyone. Having a hard time remembering it’s our day.
Post # 4
PossumGirl: can their dad just come pick them up after the ceremony?
Post # 5
PossumGirl: I would suggest asking their father to pick them up after the ceremony if you don’t invite them to the reception. You can even ask your dad, you have options. This is your wedding day, I am sure your dad will understand. 🙂